Help....what to do husband killed himself but we were separated

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Originally Posted by stormynh

I have located his well and I am indeed getting everything which means I do have a lot of work to do which is both heartbreaking that this man died alone. I can see from his papers he was still struggling with sobriety, but, like in our marriage it was a battle he lost over and over again and was taking me down. There should eventually be money to pay for the funeral with death benefits, life insurance etc, but needless to say those monies don't just float out the minute he dies and the funeral home expects there money pronto. I am having a very hard time coming up with $3000. I got the $1500 deposit so they will at least go forward and cremate my husband as that is what he wanted and everything else is frugal and at my mothers. Baby steps, but, once it is done it is done.

THank you for posting with an update. I have had you on my mind. I am glad to know you located a will.

Yes, it will take a while to get the money from the other sources. Is there any possibility of the funeral director working with you on a payment plan? Or see if you can scrape up a few more hundred dollars and then make payments on the balance. I hope they will work with you on this. Most of us cannot magically come up with money for someone else's funeral without some time to work on it.

I am really sorry you are going through this. I know it has to be very sad to be confronted with how your ex husband was struggling. It sounds like it was that way for many years and unfortunately, we can't make it better for folks -- they have to do the hard work themselves and sometimes they just can't get past it. Tragic but not rare, sadly.

I hope you will get through this alright. You are a good person for trying to do the right things. Yes, baby steps.

[stormynh]

Originally Posted by anifani821

THank you for posting with an update. I have had you on my mind. I am glad to know you located a will.

Yes, it will take a while to get the money from the other sources. Is there any possibility of the funeral director working with you on a payment plan? Or see if you can scrape up a few more hundred dollars and then make payments on the balance. I hope they will work with you on this. Most of us cannot magically come up with money for someone else's funeral without some time to work on it.

I am really sorry you are going through this. I know it has to be very sad to be confronted with how your ex husband was struggling. It sounds like it was that way for many years and unfortunately, we can't make it better for folks -- they have to do the hard work themselves and sometimes they just can't get past it. Tragic but not rare, sadly.

I hope you will get through this alright. You are a good person for trying to do the right things. Yes, baby steps.

I'm hoping they will do that on the payments. I'm waiting for a call back right now from them to ask about that. My husbands sisters are insisting that I have a funeral for "closure" but I think I'm having a tiny rememberance at my mothers home in November.