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Thank you elston and cinder. I do try to let people that say things like that pass but I'll admit it still hurts. And I agree, this person most likely has not had a loss the same as I have. Each loss and each person is different. But they are allowed their opinion even if we don't agree. Yes, I am making slow progress but at least it is progress. I'd love nothing more then to say the grief is done now and get on with life but for me it comes and goes. I have attended 2 different complete grief groups--one with my church and one through Hospice and found I am pretty "normal" with others in there. I think this thread lets those who can't get out to grief groups or choose not to go see that they too are really just normal...and that has got to give them some relief. Life is about not only helping yourself but others in need! When my therapist suggested I continue on with this thread as my way to communicate with others in my situation I have to believe she knows what is best for me and hopefully others in a similar situation .
You need to report reps like that. Its cowardly and mean and also, utterly incorrect.
Anyone who thinks theres a time limit on grief has never lost anyone they loved.
Agree that was very cowardly to say then not sign their name and there is absolutely no time limit on grief. ~~~~So lurker being brave & accountable is owning what comes out of your mouth and actions from your own body!~~~~~~
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Look at New Orleans - utter ripped apart by forces of nature. The rebuild is far slower than some would like...but there are NO SHORTCUTS.
^^lurker are you seeing the correlation of rebuilding?
cyn you are doing amazingly from where you started even before DH passed away or got sick look at how much stronger you are getting. Week 5 or 6 on a surgery recovery being bedbound I thought for sure I was going to go crazy laying looking up at my ceiling. Now 4 months later last week I'm up taking baby steps doing very well, I thought the pain was so unbearable but it faded in degrees. Same thing with your grief it has faded, not gone away, making it easier for you to face tomorrow today girlie.
Howdy & waving to everybody else.
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Yes, Jaxson always brings a smile to my face. Love ya girl! I am so sorry you have been in so much pain but happy to hear it is getting better. And we are a work in progress!!!!!
Gee, just too a peek in and see I haven't been getting notice of activity on this thread.
We discussed the benefits for bereavement offered by some blogs, I mentioned this one but didn't have the url in mind. I said I'd send the link to the group, 12 people total.
Loneliness is a key subject in the bereavement group.
How exciting for sweetpea--starting school. I'll bet she is on cloud nine! Good to hear from you!
Jerry everyone and anyone is welcome to come visit and post here....we do need to talk about what we feel and are going through. Loneliness is most definitely a major part of grief. I know it is for me. Coming here is one of the few places I can express what I am feeling and hopefully encourage others in similar situations. We need that!
The sweetpea started school yesterday, she is super happy
How wonderful for her.....and also for you. It will allow you some "me" time....altho you will still be very busy with the chauffeuring schedule. This will be such a social maturation experience for Miranda...just being one of the kids.
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And I agree, this person most likely has not had a loss the same as I have. Each loss and each person is different. But they are allowed their opinion even if we don't agree. Yes, I am making slow progress but at least it is progress. I'd love nothing more then to say the grief is done now and get on with life but for me it comes and goes. I have attended 2 different complete grief groups--one with my church and one through Hospice and found I am pretty "normal" with others in there. I think this thread lets those who can't get out to grief groups or choose not to go see that they too are really just normal...and that has got to give them some relief. Life is about not only helping yourself but others in need! When my therapist suggested I continue on with this thread as my way to communicate with others in my situation I have to believe she knows what is best for me and hopefully others in a similar situation .
doing very well, I thought the pain was so unbearable but it faded in degrees. Same thing with your grief it has faded, not gone away, making it easier for you to face tomorrow today girlie. 
