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Tonight I am having a hard time to find the purpose to live. In a matter of seven weeks, I lost my first dog (we were extremely tight) and five weeks later, I lost my second dog (they were sisters) took a cruise (from hell) with my former roommate and former best friend and they treated me like the mean girls from high school. I had to evict the roommate due to her disrespect for me. My best friend, we were friends for 25 years and we parted ways. When I would come home both my dogs were there to greet me at the door and cry and cry they were so happy to see me as I was them. Now the house is dead still, the only sound I hear are my own sobs. So much loss and drama at one time, it is hard for me to feel like I want to live. I am going to try to see my Doctor tomorrow to see if she can write a referral for me to see someone to talk to. I am doing all I can do to survive and keep my will for living. I have no family nor close friends nearby. Wow, these past two years really have been the pits. Just needed to vent. Thanks so much.
Oh, Smilin, I'm here. I'm sorry that there was no one to greet you at the door. If I were there, I would have told you to sit down, kick off your shoes and waited on you.
I have one relative here. The other ones don't count (in laws) because we haven't talked in years. Since my life has taken a turn for the worse, most of my 'friends' have dropped me.
Evenings and nights are the worst. It's the quiet hours when only those in your house are available to you that can seem quite lonely.
Tonight I am having a hard time to find the purpose to live. In a matter of seven weeks, I lost my first dog (we were extremely tight) and five weeks later, I lost my second dog (they were sisters) took a cruise (from hell) with my former roommate and former best friend and they treated me like the mean girls from high school. I had to evict the roommate due to her disrespect for me. My best friend, we were friends for 25 years and we parted ways. When I would come home both my dogs were there to greet me at the door and cry and cry they were so happy to see me as I was them. Now the house is dead still, the only sound I hear are my own sobs. So much loss and drama at one time, it is hard for me to feel like I want to live. I am going to try to see my Doctor tomorrow to see if she can write a referral for me to see someone to talk to. I am doing all I can do to survive and keep my will for living. I have no family nor close friends nearby. Wow, these past two years really have been the pits. Just needed to vent. Thanks so much.
You're feeling a lot of sadness and loneliness from the grief of death of your loved ones.
Healing from the pain of loss brings you strength when you know you will to survive.
I was so sorry to read your post. I knew you had been thru lots of losses and struggling, but I wasn't aware of how despondent you were feeling.
By all means talk to your doctor about how you are feeling!
I know that there are lots of pros and cons.....but I am still going to recommend that you get a new pet....either a cat or a dog. Not to "replace" the one who died.........we cant replace the unique love that grows between family members....but we can open our hearts and allow love to grow. That's the difference between having a "broken heart".....and having your heart "break open". My advice is to let your heart break...open!.
It isn't disrespectful of the departed...it is an acknowledgement of how important they were and are to you.
I cant imagine coming into my home without my "girls" to greet me. When I have lost a dog in the past.....it was awful....so I started getting "overlapping dogs" so I wouldn't be in that situation.
PS I wouldn't recommend a puppy.....but there are so many good dogs who desperately need a forever home...who are hard to find a home for...because they aren't puppies. There are dogs who have been surrendered because their family was moving or breaking up; there are dogs whose trusted friend has died and there is no one in the family to take them. The same is true of cats. At my age it would be foolish to get a puppy now....it would out live me in all probability......but I know that I can always give a "forever home" a second chance at love for an older animal.
Even a parakeet can be a companion. My Nana loved her budgie....and it recognized her and gave kisses and talked to her.
Thank you Elson and everyone that responded. I guess I am going through a period of feeling sorry for myself. I can't fight out of this box I am in, the poor me syndrome. I am a person that doesn't like change and so many changes and adaptations.
Elston, I think you are right. I just can't go through what I am going through. I just can' fight myself out of this paper bag, deep depression has had me stymied.
I remember you inviting me to your room and I accepted but I have no link. Thank you for thinking of me.
DUH!!!??? Sent.
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