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You don't even have to get a girlfriend to do that. Alot of us old people go to the movies alone. It's no big deal. Whatever you do, good wishes to you. It's only one day and will be over before you know it.
I think everybody has something that causes them sorrow, grief, whatever you want to call it. No matter what your stage in life is, your income, your personality, all of us have something that we carry around.
I don't disagree with that and part of it is that there's not always a lot of mental energy or fortitude to spare right yet and there's more of a need to decide for what and when the effort should be expended to be sociable.
There is often much suggesting that 'we' have to get out, start a new life for and by ourselves.
Like this bunch, now, telling me I've got to join them, that I can't be home by myself.
I'm just relating a few things that are involved when making that decision and that it's not always simply prolonging mourning or preferring to stay home sulking.
In case I haven't mentioned it, I won't be going but neither will I be home 'in mourning'. It'll just be another day. Maybe I'll even find enough ambition to finally trim up and thin out the lemon tree.
Oh my, I think you are treating this invitation way too harshly! The guy only invited you to a get together. You don't HAVE to go. The guy didn't say "you HAVE to come or else...", did he? Your pride/ego is hurt, I get that. You shouldn't be burning yourself up over this. Just let it go. Stop fuming. Just don't go. Simple. Then start focusing on something else that might not upset you.
Oh my, I think you are treating this invitation way too harshly! The guy only invited you to a get together. You don't HAVE to go. The guy didn't say "you HAVE to come or else...", did he? Your pride/ego is hurt, I get that. You shouldn't be burning yourself up over this. Just let it go. Stop fuming. Just don't go. Simple. Then start focusing on something else that might not upset you.
Peace for you this Christmas.
Good grief! Ego? Pride?
Burning up? Fuming? WTF???
Maybe I will give it much more thought before writing in this forum again.
Just a BTW....actually, he did say "If you don't show up, we're coming to get you" So there! LOL
Please, anybody else, no need to jump to my defense.
I found her post very amusing, actually...and yes, she is a widow but I suspect more the situation is she either didn't bother to read my subsequent posts at all or did so without comprehending them.
Just as a follow up, I was approached again today at our group ,to confirm I would be going and quietly asked the young man to be understanding and not make any kind of issue about this but simply to respect my decision not to join them.
He graciously did so.
End of story.
My biggest dilemma right now is what to have for dinner.
I said your ego/pride because you talked about how you weren't on "the A list and you felt like just an after thought." Did I get that right? Sorry, I must have misunderstood the whole situation.
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