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I went to the cemetery today to take my friend from HS some flowers for her birthday.(she passed in 2001) I visit her whenever I go visit my aunt or grandma since they're all in the same cemetery. I noticed she had a few flowers but they were old & faded & looked ugly. I wanted to toss them & just keep the flowers & balloon I got her but I decided not to. Is it wrong to toss old faded flowers if its not a family member? I take her flowers about once every two months or so & when the flowers I took her look faded I throw them away.
I used to help clear away faded flowers from my grans grave when I was small then clean all the water before putting in fresh flowers... no one goes to her grave anymore which I feel sad about.. and went last year to have a look.... it was all overgrown and as she had no stone.. theres nothing to see. its so sad... It used to have a metal surround and two flowerpots but they must have gone under the earth over the years...
I just think it’s looks ugly to see old faded flowers. She had a balloon that said happy birthday but it was from last year and it was already faded and deflated. I tossed that one and replaced it with the one I got her. I think I visit her grave more than her family does..
I just think it’s looks ugly to see old faded flowers. She had a balloon that said happy birthday but it was from last year and it was already faded and deflated. I tossed that one and replaced it with the one I got her. I think I visit her grave more than her family does..
I went to the cemetery today to take my friend from HS some flowers for her birthday.(she passed in 2001) I visit her whenever I go visit my aunt or grandma since they're all in the same cemetery. I noticed she had a few flowers but they were old & faded & looked ugly. I wanted to toss them & just keep the flowers & balloon I got her but I decided not to. Is it wrong to toss old faded flowers if its not a family member? I take her flowers about once every two months or so & when the flowers I took her look faded I throw them away.
Melissa, your friend is lucky to have someone who still cares. Are you in contact with your friend's family. Just googling around after reading your post I found a place for cheap monuments. If you know her parents and they might be willing to go 50/50 with you, I found a flat headstone for $219 and a smaller one for $199. $100 for each of you plus, if you can get someone to help you mix a little cement, you could put it in place yourself. I helped my ex wife's family (when we were still married) put up an upright headstone for both her dad and step dad. http://legacyheadstones.com/flat-gra...eadstones.html
If you can't do that, buy one of those shepard's crook plant hangers and put it in the ground. But dig a small square where you can get that "leg" that goes in the ground, a little deeper, then fill the hole with some cement. You can buy a bag of ready mix for a couple dollars. By putting the cement on top, it's going to be harder for someone to steal it. We've had to do that in a couple cemeteries.
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When I visit "our graves," I take new flags to replace the ones around ours that are torn or otherwise in bad shape on other graves. There's a place to put them so that cemetery staff dispose of them properly.
As with the flowers, family members might not be able to get there as often as they'd like.
When I visit "our graves," I take new flags to replace the ones around ours that are torn or otherwise in bad shape on other graves. There's a place to put them so that cemetery staff dispose of them properly.
As with the flowers, family members might not be able to get there as often as they'd like.
My wife's family cemetery is in a National Recreation Area. The third Sunday in May each year is the family homecoming at the cemetery. They spend all morning seeing relatives they haven't seen in a year and looking through old family pictures then, at noon, all the food comes out. WOW!! But, as each family arrives they put flowers (artificial) on their families monuments and will take the ones from the year before home with them to throw away.
Melissa, your friend is lucky to have someone who still cares. Are you in contact with your friend's family. Just googling around after reading your post I found a place for cheap monuments. If you know her parents and they might be willing to go 50/50 with you, I found a flat headstone for $219 and a smaller one for $199. $100 for each of you plus, if you can get someone to help you mix a little cement, you could put it in place yourself. I helped my ex wife's family (when we were still married) put up an upright headstone for both her dad and step dad. Single Grass Level Headstones & Markers | One Person Flat Headstones | Legacy Headstones
If you can't do that, buy one of those shepard's crook plant hangers and put it in the ground. But dig a small square where you can get that "leg" that goes in the ground, a little deeper, then fill the hole with some cement. You can buy a bag of ready mix for a couple dollars. By putting the cement on top, it's going to be harder for someone to steal it. We've had to do that in a couple cemeteries.
Before you start doing that, you had better get approval from the caretakers. Where my DH is buried, markers must meet certain requirements, and if they do not, they are removed. So be sure to get approval before you spend money and time.
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