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Old 01-17-2016, 02:32 AM
 
Location: Austin, TX
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I've avoided this forum for awhile... because it makes me sad...

But this is the place to share such sadness. It is good that we have places like this.

It is 3am and I just woke up in my recliner, I had been watching recordings on the DVD. I fell asleep I guess some hours ago. I dreamed, i guess, I was in a warm and happy place, I heard family and friends chatting and my wife chuckling about something... such a wonderful happy sound...and I called out her name as I was waking...

But even as I was waking and calling out her name.... I knew she would not reply... I knew she was gone.

I woke again to an empty house.



And so I come here to share this sadness, because I know you will understand.
And for some reason I feel like it does me some good to share this.
Knowing that some of you are experiencing similar things.
It is somehow good to know that I'm not alone in this.
You are not alone.
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Old 01-18-2016, 08:18 AM
 
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Yes...it's good to know you are not alone.
Doesn't make it easier....but somehow...a little better.
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Old 01-27-2016, 04:32 PM
 
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But I applaud you for avoiding the forum. I think too many people linger here in a way that's not healthy.

We all need a space to grieve and it helps if there are people to share it. But our love ones would wish us to pick up the pieces and go on.
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Old 01-27-2016, 08:23 PM
 
Location: Midland, MI
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Nothing wrong with talking to the person you've lost.I believe that somewhere they can hear us.

Hang in there Cptn Rn. Many of us have been where you are now.
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Old 01-27-2016, 09:02 PM
 
Location: Traveling
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This is a thread where those o f us who lost someone can open up. It has been so helpful when I just want to talk about my son. And you can talk about your beloved wife & all of us listen & understand.
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Old 01-28-2016, 06:13 AM
 
Location: Columbia SC
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It is a good forum to discuss issues and maybe even some you do not care to discuss with family.
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Old 01-28-2016, 09:48 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I have tried to avoid it this past year.
This is an awesome place to lay your worries, concerns, or vents. People in here seem to be tender to what is going on in your life. They offer support, and will listen.
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Old 01-28-2016, 02:33 PM
 
Location: Austin, TX
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I've avoided this forum for awhile... because it makes me sad...
I appreciate everyones support, I just wanted to clarify that its not this forum that makes me sad... its thinking about my loss. I need to move on but it has been harder than I expected. I appreciate all of the kind, caring and supportive people who posted here or contacted me about this thread.
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Old 01-28-2016, 08:05 PM
 
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I don't think any of us thought differently. My son has only been gone 17 day and the pain is still new. I'm glad this forum is here but I'm sure I will move on in time also.
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Old 01-28-2016, 09:40 PM
 
Location: Traveling
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I have to add that tonight I went to the mini-Mart and the guy next door to that, who owns an auto repair shop, was in & I asked what he'd charge to look at my car because the low tire light comes on.

I explained that I had to go to the city, 200 miles away, to pick up my son's ashes.

Well, it's a small town & he's not going to charge me for checking it out & will be able to fix it if it's just a sensor.

It was so hard though, to explain why the car had to be in good running order. It's still hard to say he's gone.
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