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Originally Posted by october2007
No never had children. I think if I had my own family it might be different.
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Not necessarily...
I have sons and daughters, have lost both parents and all but one of my brothers except for the 'baby' brother who for all practical purposes he is 'lost' to me as well, living in an assisted living center out of state and several hundred miles away from me.
My parents raised us to be strong and independent and all of us have lived that way but we were all of us very close to our parents. Even after growing up and having children of our own we spent all our holidays birthdays, and just regular visits for no reason, at the family home.
My children were also raised to be strong and independent and they live their lives far from me and some out of country as well. No grandchildren either, so 'there's that'.
Not to sound cliché but literally 'it is what it is' and the best advice for you is what has already been suggested to you. Get/put yourself out there and try to make at least some acquaintances which may or may not eventually become friends.
Life is for the living and we should honor those who have come before us by living 'our best' lives as possible.
I can't say any of this is a consolation for you but rather to say, you're not alone in your feelings of loss and isolation and I wish you the best in finding people who will surround you with love and camaraderie.