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I'm so sorry for you loss. Your mom sounds like a lovely person.
I lost my mom in January of this year. Like your mom, she was in long term care and we all knew her health was shot and she was going to leave this world pretty soon. Even so, when it actually happens, it's shocking, I don't know why, but I guess it's the reality of it, the finality of it. I have not yet broken down and bawled, not like I did about my dad, whose death was pretty sudden and who was chipper and upbeat and totally with it mentally till the last few days of his life. My mom had dementia so that's different.
Anyway, now that the reality of her passing has settled in with me, I am comforted by my belief that she is now enjoying health and vitality and a very sound mind. I believe both my parents are in a better place now. Now that their aging and deaths are in the past, I am able to focus more on the positive memories and putting their deaths in perspective of their lives. I promise that things come around like this eventually. One day you will realize that most of your memories of your mom are from when she was younger and healthier and happier and that's comforting.
My 92 year old mother died at 6.30 pm Saturday. Peacefully slipping away without pain or mental distress. That was probably due to the morphine pump.
Mum had developed an internal bleed which could only be treated by transfusion. Mum had an Advanced Care Order in place, which limited treatment in such a situation to palliative care only. She had that kind of bleed before, and it had always resolved ,after a lot of blood transfusion.
Mum was quite Ok about dying. Although she had pleasant surroundings, and was treated with great kindness, she WAS in care,(HER decision) and it simply did not have the same quality of life.
Three of her 4 kids got to say goodbye .The fourth is interstate , and will be coming home for the funeral .
Emotionally, I'm Ok, as this had ben expected for several years as mum became increasingly infirm . I rarely cry. It's also likely it hasn't hit me yet.
Some staff at the facility were in tears to learn Mum was dying.
Mum was a practising Catholic, having Communion and last rites. She was what I call a small 'c' Christian, giving witness to her faith by the way she lived day-to day.
A compassionate lady, mum helped a great many people lover her life time ,and was loved by many.
That is how I will remember my mother
I'm sorry. I'm really sorry. My mom died in 2013. Mommy was gone.
My extremely intelligent nephew led me through the paperwork nightmare. It took months.
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