Grieving for a friend and dealing with other grieving styles

[PriscillaVanilla]

Originally Posted by emotiioo

No one wants to keep commenting on everything Mary posts. We don't want to forget our beloved friend but time has allowed us to start coming to terms with the loss. .

I have a friend who passed away ten years ago. Some of her family keep posting about her and I stopped commenting on these posts after several years. I also wouldn't say things that were untrue about the deceased person, as she could be a very cruel person at times. I felt that my hand was being forced into continuing the grieving process along with others. I've been respectful for years about it all but now I want to move forward. And since my friend's death I've lost other people in my life, several family members, so she's not the only person who has ever died. Death is not unique to anyone, it happens to us all.

Your friend Mary is not being respectful of other people. She probably needs counseling but doesn't need to keep forcing others to remain in the grieving process. Any way you try to broach this topic likely won't go over very well with her. The only thing you can do is stay away from her.

[K10J]

It sounds like your friend is having a really difficult time dealing with the loss of your mutual friend. Loss is very painful and sometimes people really long for the way things use to be in the past. Maybe it would be helpful for her to write down all the great fond times and stories she had with her friend so that she can keep the journal and always look back and remember her by. I think people are scared of forgetting the memories, but the great times and memories will forever live on. I think with her writing in the keepsake journal will help her cope with the difficult loss of your mutual friend.