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Thank you. Just to be absolutely clear, nobody other than my husband and me have ever seen them, and this thread has convinced me that it might be time to tuck one into the container of her ashes, which will be interred with me, and let the rest go.
do whatever you feel is best. Random comments don't always mean anything. I think what you have done is a beautiful way to remember your precious baby.
I have a few photos of my first child, who was born deceased. They are in a box with her ashes on the top of my dresser. My husband and I take them out on the day of her birth each year to remember her.
do whatever you feel is best. Random comments don't always mean anything. I think what you have done is a beautiful way to remember your precious baby.
I agree. I have the ashes of my daughter in a display cabinet in my home office. Sometimes I just like to hold the urn and touch the ashes to remind me she was once real and happy and alive. I don't care if anyone thinks it's weird!
Wow. Why is remembering a loved one disgusting? Should we just kick them into a hole in the ground and pretend they never existed?
Everyone grieves differently. Who are you to judge someone who is grieving the loss of a child?
I believe it is making a comeback, why not? Many years ago, post-mortem photography was quite often the only photograph the family would have of a loved one. Photography was not as common as it is now.
do whatever you feel is best. Random comments don't always mean anything. I think what you have done is a beautiful way to remember your precious baby.
Agree. Don’t let random comments dissuade you from remembering your child in the way that you would like to remember him/her.
A distant relative of mine had a stillborn child about two years ago that was nearly full term and I believe she and her husband had some pictures taken, but not to share with anyone. I’ve never seen the pictures and would never ask to see them. The situation was very sad and traumatic for them and I can’t imagine what it must be like — so if they wanted pictures and if pictures help them in some way, I support their decision.
I have a few photos of my first child, who was born deceased. They are in a box with her ashes on the top of my dresser. My husband and I take them out on the day of her birth each year to remember her.
I think that is a truly wonderful thing to do. Always to be remembered and cherished.
I've seen online some of those old photos with a deceased child. Very sad.
Not stillborn, but my sister had a baby that she and her husband knew would die within hours of being born. There are a few pictures of the baby before he passed. My mother keeps one out and on display with pictures of her other grandchildren. Now I think I'll go cry thinking about the whole unfortunate situation.
kj and Zen--I'm sorry about the loss of your children. Two of my sisters have had children pass away at young ages. I watched their heartbreak, and had my own sadness, but I can't fully understand all of their feelings.
I agree. I have the ashes of my daughter in a display cabinet in my home office. Sometimes I just like to hold the urn and touch the ashes to remind me she was once real and happy and alive. I don't care if anyone thinks it's weird!
Not weird at all. Always remembered and cherished. I love that.
Agree. Don’t let random comments dissuade you from remembering your child in the way that you would like to remember him/her.
A distant relative of mine had a stillborn child about two years ago that was nearly full term and I believe she and her husband had some pictures taken, but not to share with anyone. I’ve never seen the pictures and would never ask to see them. The situation was very sad and traumatic for them and I can’t imagine what it must be like — so if they wanted pictures and if pictures help them in some way, I support their decision.
Oh, I'm not dissuaded from remembering her in this way by off-handed internet comments, but I hadn't really considered until reading this thread that I am ready to let go of some of those mementos, including the majority of the photos. They have served their purpose. I will tuck one special photo into the container of her ashes, and that will be enough.
I almost did not click on this thread, but I'm glad I did, and I'm also glad that I added to the conversation. Thank you all for your sweet comments. Hopefully, others will understand that pregnancy loss and stillbirth are very traumatic experiences, and each of us copes in our own way and in our own time.
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