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First, I am sad to be posting in this forum. My husband just lost his younger brother and it is really hitting him hard. Although he was 58 years old, he was born developmentally disabled and also had some physical issues. He was very sweet, a pure soul and child-like and looked up to his "big brother." He had been suffering with a failing heart, and other organs started to fail and finally it was all too much for his frail body and he passed.
The really heart-breaking thing for my husband is that we live in a different state: DH had not been able to travel to see his brother in over a year due to the fact that I had had a bad accident last year and he had to be here for me. And then when I was better we sold our home and moved which took a lot of time and energy. He kept promising his little brother he would come; the next month, the next month, etc. and sadly it was not too be. So rightly or wrongly he feels guilty and so do I. I told DH we can't time these things; I wasn't there for the passing of either of my parents, nor was he there for the passing of either of his. But this has hit way harder. He wishes he could have seen him just one more time before he went so far downhill and passed. I guess really we all feel that way when it comes to our loved ones.
Just sharing here, because the grief is still fresh (it's been two weeks) and hubby has been in tears tonight and very depressed.
Your husband is grieving and it's painful and the only thing that will eventually ease the pain is time. There is no way to go over, under, or around it, just through it. It's part of being human.
I am so sorry for the loss of his beloved brother.
I am so sorry about your husband's younger brother.
I agree with SkyLark - it was his brother's "time to go" and death is very, very inconvenient. Be happy for the good times experienced between the two.
Thanks everyone, I appreciate the replies. And I know you all are right, it was definitely "his time to go", and he actually did have a very good life while he was here. It just takes time to get over the pain of loss, as I know how well you all know.
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