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Oh... OK
Then not really related to the thread title, I guess...
Not the title, but it definitely relates to the first OP post. He/she said she can tell a lot about someone by their refrigerator and that the state of a refrigerator is an indication of a person's mental state. Or something like that. lol
I like to think that people that have had roommates tend to get neater based on peer pressure but I guess if both are messy, then it doesn't work. I have had to share kitchens and bathrooms so many times that I would be embarrassed to leave a mess. But, everyone has different levels of self awareness.
I think this thread is hilarious. It taps into my OCD haha. I have a thing about clean fridges. Every week when I go grocery shopping I wipe out my fridge before putting in the new goods. I can't stand a gross fridge. I don't actively seek out the interiors of others fridges but I have seen a few and have been shocked. A good friend of mine kept a pretty tidy home most of the time, while visiting she told me to help myself with some ice tea. OMG. The fridge was gross, it shocked me. It wasn't an off week, the spills and stains inside were old. Stuff that had been spilled on the top shelf ran all the way down into a pool on the bottom. It made me not want to drink the tea. Its important to me to keep a clean house. I actually like cleaning, it relieves stress for me and the end result I have a nice looking home. That is me and how I am, some don't even think about it. Its not that important to them. I do find a pattern though, people that are chronically disorganized tend have very stressed lives.
I have an OCD friend who dropped her children off for a play date at a borderline hoarders house. She said it caused an outright panic attack. She came home with an intense urge to clean, but her house was perfect because she has a maid. The only thing she could do was straighten the fringe on her oriental carpeting and she got on her knees and immediately set to straightening that out. Afterwards, she called her maid and told her she was doing too good of a job cleaning her house. LOL
I suspect they're chronically disorganized because they have stressed lives, not that they have stressed lives because they're disorganized.
We usually cook for the two of use but end up with leftovers so we stock a lot of containers in the fridge. It's never messy but cluttered because we are not fond of the side by side space layout and would much prefer a top french door, bottom freezer. But the fridge works and it's not in the budget to shell out at least a grand for a new one yet.
The freezer is the same, compact so it looks cluttered. Go to our downstairs and you will find the water, soda, beer, etc. all lined up neatly in rows and spaced. The freezer is packed and I keep a dry eras board on the front to note what we have in there instead of searching for something to defrost for dinner.
We also keep the kitchen clean, I do the big dishes but load up the washer as much as I can before running it. The only thing that stays a little dirty is the cooktop. It's gas but the glass can get splatter and oil on it so I wipe it down but don't go to town on it very often. Cerama Bryte works great every so often to get it sparkling again.
I think slob is a relative term. I know people that consider a shirt on the floor in an otherwise pristine house to be trashy. Then again I know people who live in conditions like those you see on hoarders. My wife and I both work fulltime and are studying at night for continued education. Our house looks like a wreck as far as laundry laying around, but no food or anything biohazardous. Im sure people would judge us as sloppy. That being said anyone who would judge us by the condition of our home would find themselves lacking friends. I dont prefer to hand around with those who would judge me be the tidiness of our home.
I really think you can read a lot about someone by looking in their refrigerator. Do they use one thing up before opening another? How does it smell? What is in the freezer? People are busy with many things but if they don't have the time to keep their refrigerator organized and their kitchen clean it says something about their mental state. And I don't understand why one person needs to use a dishwasher. It takes about 5-10 to wash and dry dishes when you are done. For a family it may make sense. These are things that seem to matter.
Do you or your family leave dirty dishes around? I did when I was a kid but now I understand it is always best to wash them as soon as possible and keep that refrigerator under control. Nothing worse than dealing with others dirty dishes. To all you dish doers out there, you deserve some respect for sure.
The bathroom is for another rant.
It appears you do not wish to visit with the humans you call friends but wish to inspect their homes to ensure their homes are kept to your standards.
I can guarantee you if you would walk in my home and open the fridge or anything to "inspect" it you would be escorted right out and never contacted again.
Friends do not do things like that and they do not judge how others live and what makes them feel good about themselves.
Just because you want to wash dishes and not use a dishwasher does not mean everyone wants to do that. Our home is lived in, yes there are dishes in the sink at times, yes the pillows are not perfect, the bed is not made, the sweeper needs run and there is dust everywhere. So what, it does not affect you, it does not make me feel bad about myself, and it is truly none of your business why my home is not magazine cover perfect.
I used to think things like that were important but you know what, they aren't in the grand scheme of life, living, loving and giving.
When you get hit out of nowhere with a disabling disease and can no longer keep up physically everyday, you learn to adapt to what you can and cannot do daily.
When one has OCD on top of it the challenge is almost overwhelming to get over the fact that everything is not in it's place even though there is a place for everything.
If you want to visit with me and chat great, if you want to inspect my home to make sure it is up to your standards, take your white gloves somewhere else because the gloves nor you is welcome here.
A good friend of mine kept a pretty tidy home most of the time, while visiting she told me to help myself with some ice tea. OMG. The fridge was gross, it shocked me. It wasn't an off week, the spills and stains inside were old. Stuff that had been spilled on the top shelf ran all the way down into a pool on the bottom. It made me not want to drink the tea.
As long as the iced tea itself isn't in a pool at the bottom of the fridge, you should have nothing to worry about ...
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A lot of the "hippie" culture seems to have lost the importance of these types of things, cleaning up after oneself, personal responsibility, having functional things that work well, maintaining and putting them back in their proper place when done etc. They are still stuck in a "dysfunctional rut" but may think everything is hunky dory with how they are but if you look closely it is frustrating. The hippies and bohemians got a little confused with the horse and the cart. They sure like those weird foods though. Much of their behavior is very contradictory and makes no sense to me. Little things can make a huge difference in the quality of your life and future success and happiness. Be organized, have things in order. The U.S. is still experiencing a backlash from it, the boomer hippies. Takes them to balance out the "deep south" mentality I guess. The common sense balance is rare.
Wow. The list of non sequiturs and other logical fallacies in this paragraph is quite lengthy. Congratulations.
I really think you can read a lot about someone by looking in their refrigerator. Do they use one thing up before opening another? How does it smell? What is in the freezer? People are busy with many things but if they don't have the time to keep their refrigerator organized and their kitchen clean it says something about their mental state. And I don't understand why one person needs to use a dishwasher. It takes about 5-10 to wash and dry dishes when you are done. For a family it may make sense. These are things that seem to matter.
Do you or your family leave dirty dishes around? I did when I was a kid but now I understand it is always best to wash them as soon as possible and keep that refrigerator under control. Nothing worse than dealing with others dirty dishes. To all you dish doers out there, you deserve some respect for sure.
The bathroom is for another rant.
I don't know. I am a serious minimalist. My fridge is always clean and organized and my house is always tidy. I just feel more peace this way.
Whoa, I wasn't quite sure if I was reading about some kind of fetish I had never heard of????
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But I think there is something to be said for parents that try raise their kids with a sense of discipline and awareness of the value of cleaning up after oneself and helping with dishes and such. Very respectable and also helps to instill responsibility.
Okay, this I can agree with but it is a much broader topic and somewhat related to the refrigerator-thing. People are busy with their lives. And unless someone has a maid or cleaning service, the fridge is ONE more thing to add to an endless To Do List in one's home.
That said, I try to keep up with the refrigerator, especially if stuff starts to look bad or smell. But not manic about it. Definitely do not have food stains, drips, etc. We just bought a historic home without a dishwasher so we do wash them by hand and put them away diligently. However, one day when I re-do the kitchen, I am definitely getting a dishwasher installed. At least I will have the choice of "either-or". And the dishwasher is much faster than doing them by hand.
I knew someone who was very particular about her home. They had a cleaning service and noted when things were out of place. They also had alot of family nearby and always had them visiting, held family dinners, BBQs, etc. However, outside of the house (and fridge) they seemed very unorganized and chaotic about alot of things.
I knew another woman who had a spotless house. She cleaned everything herself. One day, I noticed her cleaning the crumbs from the bottom of her toaster. She never worked in her life; got married quite young and stayed married to the same man for 40+ years. She never went to college. She was okay with me until I heard how she criticized other women who's homes were not "up to par" with her standards. These women, of course, were educated and had careers/full-time work. After that, she just disgusted me.
Didn't Socrates say"Nothing in excess"?
I like to think that balance is important in our lives, not pristine refrigerators.
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