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We clearly have different parenting styles, I don't even leave my daughter at home on her own and she is 11, when I am going into the drug store quickly, I don't leave her in the car, or when I run into the gas station to pay for the gas.
Its just taking an unnecessary risk in my opinion.
When my daughter was a baby, she rarely went to someone else to take care of but when she did, she stayed with a friend who is an RN. A woman who had raised her own daughter already. Her daughter was also an RN and on a couple of occasions watched my daughter when my parents were in the hospital one summer. Another person who watched her ONE TIME was the Mother of a friend of mine, again someone who had a daughter who was 30 years old.
We clearly have different parenting styles, I don't even leave my daughter at home on her own and she is 11, when I am going into the drug store quickly, I don't leave her in the car, or when I run into the gas station to pay for the gas.
Its just taking an unnecessary risk in my opinion.
When my daughter was a baby, she rarely went to someone else to take care of but when she did, she stayed with a friend who is an RN. A woman who had raised her own daughter already. Her daughter was also an RN and on a couple of occasions watched my daughter when my parents were in the hospital one summer. Another person who watched her ONE TIME was the Mother of a friend of mine, again someone who had a daughter who was 30 years old.
I understand your reasoning, completely. When I had my kids, I was young and stupid and really had no business having kids. If I were to have another child now (fat chance, lol) I know I'd fall a lot closer to your scale of protectiveness than how I raised my grown kids. Even at that, I remember being more protective of my kids than a lot of parents were of theirs.
I understand your reasoning, completely. When I had my kids, I was young and stupid and really had no business having kids. If I were to have another child now (fat chance, lol) I know I'd fall a lot closer to your scale of protectiveness than how I raised my grown kids. Even at that, I remember being more protective of my kids than a lot of parents were of theirs.
I was 30 when I had my only child. I saw many girls going off and leaving their infants with whomever they could get to take them. I just see no reason to take so little care with your child. I wouldn't leave my house in the charge of a 12 year old. My daughter is the most important person in the world to me.
In the upstairs bedroom. Not being facetious. Just wanted to answer the question and I think if you have an available bedroom it would be better than the sofa.
In Albuquerque, my neighbor and friend's 12 year old son babysat for us when we went out for dinner. The kids loved him (he put on puppet shows, taught them little skits) and his mom was only a block away, so there no problems. The 1 time my daughter faked being sick (for extra attention), his mom got there before we did.
We never would've left them with him if his mom hadn't been home though, and his mom wouldn't have let him babysit without her home either, - except when he came over when I had some project to do at home and he would keep them occupied.
We never went out that late, but I would suggest having him sleep on the couch until you come home, then he could move upstairs.
I think that is a very uncalled for, and ignorant comment (as well as well)....to more or less say someone should "re-examine parenthood"...meaning obviously their way of thinking is incorrect (by your standards) and they should re-think what they are thinking so they can do it the proper way (by your standards).
I know more 12 year olds that are more mature than some 18 year old....heck, than some grown men.
I was babysitter at 12, and was babysitter to twins. I babysat those twins until I was over 18 years old, and when I was about 14 those twins had two sisters, so at about 15 I was babysitting 4 little girls. Not ONE thing ever went wrong doing my young years of babysitting. I played with them, cooked them dinner (sure, it was just spaghettios), bathed them, and put them to bed. Not one thing EVER happened to go wrong...so obviously those parents needn't rethink anything because their decision was a right decision.
I also know a woman who left her care of her child with a grown woman of 29 years old. This babysitter was a close friend, had a bachelor's degree in elementary/early childhood education, AND had her own daycare in the process of being opened. The woman came home to find her child awake in the crib, crying, with crap in his diaper, and the "babysitter" was asleep on the floor with Bruce Springsteen blaring.
I at 12 never did that. The woman of 29 did.
For anyone to ever say someone has to rethink their parenting is unbelievable. Who is to say your beliefs are the rule?
I agree I was a babysitter for a family when i was 12 !
the kids are not up that long any way.
I alway fell asleep on the couch but went home at 1.
My parents knew the family that was why i got to go
I was paid until they came home.
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I agree with you
