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I also unintentionally married one. Why? Because by the time I met him, at his age of 52, he had long ago figured out how to mask his social deficiencies. Well, not exactly. He used love bombing. Kept me inundated with constant contact etc, to keep me from recognizing those Red Flags. He didn't allow that mask to fall till AFTER the marriage vows were said.
I read that men with Asperger's can be "coached" or learn lines from TV what they think they should say to a female but it doesn't come naturally to them and they eventually stop their "act". They lack emotion and can't read others' emotions and that's why their marriages fail. I could totally see my son being like that. And probably a good thing he doesn't see himself getting married.
People with Aspergers (or ASD as it's now called) do NOT lack emotions. That is a very dangerous and damaging thing to believe about your own son. You don't appear to have done much research at all.
You may be surprised at what research is discovering about how to treat ASD and educate for emotional intelligence and life skills. I guess your son will never benefit from these breakthroughs. Shame.
OK, maybe they don't lack emotions but they don't SHOW them. Is that better? That's exactly how my son is. No facial expressions. Same monotone voice. Why do you think you know him better than I do?
OK, maybe they don't lack emotions but they don't SHOW them. Is that better? That's exactly how my son is. No facial expressions. Same monotone voice. Why do you think you know him better than I do?
You are very sensitive to his emotions and that is what counts. If you feel informing him won't help, then don't. Formulate a plan where somehow he can obtain the knowledge otherwise.
You know what is best for your son. If you do get a special needs trust, he will be ok. He is holding down intermittant jobs too so that's a good sign. Blessings to you
You are very sensitive to his emotions and that is what counts. If you feel informing him won't help, then don't. Formulate a plan where somehow he can obtain the knowledge otherwise.
You know what is best for your son. If you do get a special needs trust, he will be ok. He is holding down intermittant jobs too so that's a good sign. Blessings to you
I read that men with Asperger's can be "coached" or learn lines from TV what they think they should say to a female but it doesn't come naturally to them and they eventually stop their "act". They lack emotion and can't read others' emotions and that's why their marriages fail. I could totally see my son being like that. And probably a good thing he doesn't see himself getting married.
I read that too, but that blog or article was very flawed. She was describing a narcissist.
Personally, I would want to know. I did wonder if Aspergers could potentially be an explanation for certain things about myself, but my therapist didn’t seem to think I had it (or any major problems at all, really).
I am pretty sure that I have Asperger's. I have always felt I am very different from most people. I made a female friend 3 years ago who is married to a man with Asperger's and she told me I was very much like her husband and explained all of it in detail. I did research online and bingo it fit me perfectly and explained a lot of things.
I wish when I was young that this had been explained to me. I am now in my 50's and my life is actually pretty good but I have always had issues socially that I could not overcome and had no idea why I dealt with things the way I did.
I think that someone with Aspergers should know about it. You don't know what sort of inner issues someone with Aspergers might have and to keep that from them is wrong IMHO.
Anyways my 2 cents.
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We aren't designed to be cookie cooker copies, that's why evolution throws in variation.
Anything schools don't like they will patholigize.
Einstein was slow in his education, started speaking late in childhood. Stubborn to the point he couldnt get a job .
What if they diagnosed and medicated Beethoven, what would he have composed without his temper and anguish.?
What happens when they medicate behavior?
We get columbine and the Cruz kid in FL.
Almost all the mass shooters are in that category. Even the Vegas shooter.
Do you have any links to back up the bolded?
Students I know do really well on medication. I would hate to see a down side to that.
There is no medication for autism. the students i know medicate for behavior and focus.
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