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The dog advice is good. I have a cat. She's a great pet, but obviously I don't take her out. I'm about to start looking at dogs and trying to figure out what breed I want. I'm looking at possibly getting a Pembroke Welsh Corgi or a Double Doodle. I'm also going to volunteer at an animal adoption place.
Awesome! Those are great breeds for socializing - you might want to go with the doodles, as the corgis can be stroppy.
Good luck with the volunteering
(I bought a backpack carrier for my cat, btw. She seems to enjoy outings in it, even when we go to the vet.)
I just started volunteering at an animal shelter, and I really enjoy. It hasn't been great for meeting people so far, but the dogs love the attention and going for walks, and they are always so happy to see me. (I have a cat, too, but she hates dogs so I won't be able to get a dog until she passes away).
Good Move....you never know who you will meet human or animal.
I'm an introvert and love the peace and quiet in my house, so I don't need a lot of interaction. The longest relationships I've had are people in my church (late DH and I joined it 12 years ago) and people in Toastmasters, especially the club I joined in 2014 when I retired. A few of those are close enough that I can have deep conversations with them. On-line dating worked for me and I met a nice guy who lives an hour away- I wasn't really looking for 24/7 togetherness so this may work out well. I also work out daily at the gym, but just know a few people to say "hi" to, belong to a Garden Club and compete as a retiree in the local corporate athletic competition.
So, it's enough to get me out but enough "alone" time as well. The key is to pursue things you generally like and find interesting. Sometimes you meet kindred spirits along the way, sometimes you don't.
Single middle aged guy here...youthful and try to stay active. Work out three times a week, etc. Just realized have no real close friends...they all married/divorced, etc and drifted out of my life years ago. Have gotten complacent, and have not put myself out there much the last few years after a dating breakup...like live music but not really into drinking and the club scene. Hear that lonliness is like smoking 15 cigarettes a day as you get older, so need to get back out there. Tired of internet dating and looking for low budget ways to meet new people. Any suggestions are appreciated on how/where to find common interest clubs and so forth. Thanks!
The main thing you have to do is socialize,talk to people, ask them out fo social events join clubs, i find the YMCA a great place to socialize, also Meetup.com.
I also agree with the YMCA, classes at the YMCA, Church, groups at the church. For women, you could visit South America, some of the women really love American men (fair skinned, light eyes) (just be careful they want you and not the U.S.A). I've even met people in recovery groups, some of the best people I have ever met in life, but I don't recommend falling into addiction to meet people. Good luck!
I stay active by traveling. Living in one place for too long bores me, so I relocate often for work. Thankfully, I have a job that allows me to live just about anywhere. I move when I want to. Currently in CO, but won't stay too much longer. My kids are grown and I have nothing tying me down. So, after 1.5 years I've decided to return to the east coast where I am not so land-locked. The EC geographic location just works better for my lifestyle. Currently, I find fulfillment by exploring new cities, experiences new cultures and meeting people. I enjoy my solo, nomadic lifestyle. Loneliness can't catch me I guess.
YMCA? Wow, what a change in reputation from many years ago. I've never met anyone at the gym. I go to an upscale (excuse to rip people off) gym and never meet anyone. There's no shortage of women in my yoga class, thats for sure. But I wouldn't even attempt to talk to someone unless they were right next to me and happened to be looking at me. I don't know how to tell who's single and who's married, or if they're open to meeting anyone. I've always been bad at this. Many of the women in my gym look like models, and of course those women are with guys usually.
Single middle aged guy here...youthful and try to stay active. Work out three times a week, etc. Just realized have no real close friends...they all married/divorced, etc and drifted out of my life years ago. Have gotten complacent, and have not put myself out there much the last few years after a dating breakup...like live music but not really into drinking and the club scene. Hear that lonliness is like smoking 15 cigarettes a day as you get older, so need to get back out there. Tired of internet dating and looking for low budget ways to meet new people. Any suggestions are appreciated on how/where to find common interest clubs and so forth. Thanks!
You are not alone. I've tried Meetup. I find those people already have family and friends. It is just something else to do. I honestly do not know what to do. I want to meet people but I want to meet the right type of people. There are a lot of crazy people out there. Sigh!
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