Regret (emotional, take, get, eat)

[jorgebanuelos]

Theres a youtube video that sheds some light on regret.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=2GFhGq...Fzc2xlcg%3D%3D

What does she mean we did the best we could at the time? What wouldve done differently then as to not make the mistake?

[Parnassia]

Originally Posted by jorgebanuelos

Theres a youtube video that sheds some light on regret.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=2GFhGq...Fzc2xlcg%3D%3D

What does she mean we did the best we could at the time? What wouldve done differently then as to not make the mistake?

What do you mean what does she mean?

IMHO, this is about continuing to beat yourself up over some past decision or action you took based on the information you had at that time, the skill or ability you had at that time, or due to some other factor that was out of your control at that moment. You can only do what you can do.

If your intentions at the time were good, honest, and you weren't deliberately trying to hurt anyone, regretting the decision you made to the point of emotionally crippling yourself isn't doing you or anyone else any good. You can end up wallowing and stuck in your regrets. Replaying an old, outdated video again and again but hoping something different is going to happen.

All you can do is acknowledge what needs to be acknowledged, make amends if you need to, learn from the mistake, and also learn how to process those memories in a more realistic manner and file them away. That will allow you to move on with your life. It will also help others who happen to depend on you. They need to move on too. No one has a time machine. No one gets do-overs. Time moves in one direction.

Everyone lives with some regrets.

[divyansh1947]

If anyone does something wrong in life, never regret it because it will only push you into guilt or make you very sad. Instead, you have to work on it to do it properly, in the right way, and by not doing it again or anything like that. Regret will only lead you to sadness, and seriously, I am telling you, it's a horrible experience.

[stephenMM]

You just have to forgive yourself and move on. We all make mistakes, that's called experience. If it's bad, good or indifferent it doesn't matter, you learn from those mistakes. It really helps to realize that it happened in the past too, and thinking about it is not going to change anything in the here and now.

[tasmtairy]

My past regrets were poor decisions on my part, I have to live with them and learn with them. And growing older helps alleviate the guilt and think about where you are now and not where you could have been had those decisions be so consequential that you would be suffering now. I try to.