Impossible to Make Friends Here If... (Miami, Hollywood: mover, neighborhood, to buy)

[Tiger Beer]

Hm...cant comment...I went to a college in MI...and partying was status quo as well there. If you party, you meet people left and right.

I could see, even there, that if people didnt want to party, they'd be a bit more bored.

But, c'mon, ANYWHERE you go, you SHOULD be able to meet people. I mean, Miami with millions of people. Most cities/towns have nowhere near that amount of people....significantly less, and significantly more narrower in their interests.

Imagine yourself in Nebraska...farmer kids....and probably fraternities in the college...people watching a lot of college sports and probably not a whole lot else going on at all anywhere than just that....and you'd be thinking how diverse and interesting people in Miami seemed to be.

[Nikki9947]

Originally Posted by Tiger Beer

Hm...cant comment...I went to a college in MI...and partying was status quo as well there. If you party, you meet people left and right.

I could see, even there, that if people didnt want to party, they'd be a bit more bored.

But, c'mon, ANYWHERE you go, you SHOULD be able to meet people. I mean, Miami with millions of people. Most cities/towns have nowhere near that amount of people....significantly less, and significantly more narrower in their interests.

Imagine yourself in Nebraska...farmer kids....and probably fraternities in the college...people watching a lot of college sports and probably not a whole lot else going on at all anywhere than just that....and you'd be thinking how diverse and interesting people in Miami seemed to be.

Yes you can actually meet plenty of people here the problem lies in keeping that connection with them to where they can be called true friends. Put it this way, I've been here 3 years and if I randomly breakdown on the side of the road, I basically have no one to call but AAA. Needless to say...I'm moving in less than 100 days.

[NYer75]

Originally Posted by Chewie_77

...You don't like clubs, parties or partaking in illegal activities? Seems to me that is the way that it goes around here. And Googling the subject of "making friends in Miami" returns rather uninspiring results calling Miami "not a very good place to make friends" and the like.

So yeah, I'm am a sophomore at FIU and have a hard time meeting people. Nobody seems to be really interested in meeting new people. There are no reasonable and interesting clubs at FIU so that is out of the question. And around the city, I can't think of anywhere to go where you can make friends.

It seems to me as everybody is occupied with themselves and living superficial lifestyles. Either that or getting high or drunk and participating in other stupid behaviors which I have no desire to be involved in.

So I ask the question, where are the reasonable and nice young people around here?

Or is the only way to meet people here is to act like a jerk and drive a bimmer?

If you can't make friends in Miami, you have serious social issues.

[BQ12345]

Originally Posted by NYer75

If you can't make friends in Miami, you have serious social issues.

Sounds like you have some issues of your own.

[giz2000]

Try the Miami Sports and Social club....they have different sports leagues around the city (including some near FIU)...lots of people of all ages play in those leagues, and I've made some pretty good friendships there...

[gixxer1000]

Originally Posted by Chewie_77

...You don't like clubs, parties or partaking in illegal activities?

While I agree that my witnessing of people using drugs is more prevalent than in some other cities I have been out to clubs plenty of times without witnessing any drug usage at all. I'm pretty sure you can find someone to go to the club who is not going to be doing coke all night. Now on the other hand if you are saying you don't like to go out to the club period then I think you may need to recognize that your views are somewhat prude and therefore with those view you probably have a problem at most campuses.

Originally Posted by Chewie_77

Seems to me that is the way that it goes around here. And Googling the subject of "making friends in Miami" returns rather uninspiring results calling Miami "not a very good place to make friends" and the like.

Most of those threads are for middle aged transient people. The majority of college students are not on this forum complaining because they can't make friends. I have visited UM 3 times now and have already made friends. During one visit I asked to speak to some current students in my program and after having discussion about the best place to live we ended hanging out in Brickell so they could show me the area and where they lived. Open mouths don't get fed. I had to specifically request to speak with the current students and then from there I asked plenty of questions about where is the best place to live. Had I simply visited the school and listened to what they had to say and went home I would have never made the new acquaintance.

Originally Posted by Chewie_77

So yeah, I'm am a sophomore at FIU and have a hard time meeting people. Nobody seems to be really interested in meeting new people. There are no reasonable and interesting clubs at FIU so that is out of the question. And around the city, I can't think of anywhere to go where you can make friends.

This is just completely ridiculous. During one of my trips me and my fiance toured FIU because that's where she plans to attend. When we walked through Graham Center we saw so many students hanging out together it was ridiculous. My fiance only has an associate degree from a community college and she was blown away at the difference between the schools. And we saw a lot of diverse groups of people hanging out. From the cheerleaders do something over by the panther pit, to people doing some sort of bake sale , to a bunch of dorky kids playing video game over by the game room. FIU has countless clubs from Greeks to student government. They have 43 social clubs, how many clubs do you want????

Originally Posted by Chewie_77

It seems to me as everybody is occupied with themselves and living superficial lifestyles. Either that or getting high or drunk and participating in other stupid behaviors which I have no desire to be involved in.

Again the problem may be that you are a bit too prude. You seem to act "holier than thou" and then want to complain about how you cant find friends because no one fits you holy standards.

Originally Posted by Chewie_77

So I ask the question, where are the reasonable and nice young people around here?

Or is the only way to meet people here is to act like a jerk and drive a bimmer?

Why don't you ask the THOUSANDS of reasonable nice young people that you walk past every day. When we parked in the garage we saw plenty of cars that weren't bimmers.

[gymbuff]

Originally Posted by Chewie_77

...You don't like clubs, parties or partaking in illegal activities? Seems to me that is the way that it goes around here. And Googling the subject of "making friends in Miami" returns rather uninspiring results calling Miami "not a very good place to make friends" and the like.

So yeah, I'm am a sophomore at FIU and have a hard time meeting people. Nobody seems to be really interested in meeting new people. There are no reasonable and interesting clubs at FIU so that is out of the question. And around the city, I can't think of anywhere to go where you can make friends.

It seems to me as everybody is occupied with themselves and living superficial lifestyles. Either that or getting high or drunk and participating in other stupid behaviors which I have no desire to be involved in.

So I ask the question, where are the reasonable and nice young people around here?

Or is the only way to meet people here is to act like a jerk and drive a bimmer?

try the gaybles events. If you would like respond to me and I will send you the link. People are much older, but you will meet people your age.
As far as making friends, I just think you are at an age where people WANT to party. I remember going out 4 night a week, and taking a power nap at 9:30 on a Friday so I could be awake and alert the rest of the night. Now, I actually go to sleep at 9:30 on a Friday. Lifestyles and tastes change.

[JohnLee1]

Originally Posted by gixxer1000

While I agree that my witnessing of people using drugs is more prevalent than in some other cities I have been out to clubs plenty of times without witnessing any drug usage at all. I'm pretty sure you can find someone to go to the club who is not going to be doing coke all night. Now on the other hand if you are saying you don't like to go out to the club period then I think you may need to recognize that your views are somewhat prude and therefore with those view you probably have a problem at most campuses.



Most of those threads are for middle aged transient people. The majority of college students are not on this forum complaining because they can't make friends. I have visited UM 3 times now and have already made friends. During one visit I asked to speak to some current students in my program and after having discussion about the best place to live we ended hanging out in Brickell so they could show me the area and where they lived. Open mouths don't get fed. I had to specifically request to speak with the current students and then from there I asked plenty of questions about where is the best place to live. Had I simply visited the school and listened to what they had to say and went home I would have never made the new acquaintance.



This is just completely ridiculous. During one of my trips me and my fiance toured FIU because that's where she plans to attend. When we walked through Graham Center we saw so many students hanging out together it was ridiculous. My fiance only has an associate degree from a community college and she was blown away at the difference between the schools. And we saw a lot of diverse groups of people hanging out. From the cheerleaders do something over by the panther pit, to people doing some sort of bake sale , to a bunch of dorky kids playing video game over by the game room. FIU has countless clubs from Greeks to student government. They have 43 social clubs, how many clubs do you want????



Again the problem may be that you are a bit too prude. You seem to act "holier than thou" and then want to complain about how you cant find friends because no one fits you holy standards.



Why don't you ask the THOUSANDS of reasonable nice young people that you walk past every day. When we parked in the garage we saw plenty of cars that weren't bimmers.

Beautiful, just beautiful, you did it again, BEAUTIFUL. I was going to post but it get's kind of boring to see ridiculous posts and threads . I will start posting soon again, just need some time to go by and it doesn't get boring. But everything you said is true .

[gymbuff]

Allow me to add one more thing. I am sorry you think Miami is only good for drinking and illegal activities. The opposite is quite true. What's wrong with jogging on the beach, beach volleyball, bowling, jet skiing, swimming, working with a charity or in a soup kitchen? Miami and its adjacent municipalities and cities have a plethora of festivals, street events, etc. For example, as badly as people speak of Miami Gardens, they host a wonderful event called Jazz in the Gardens. Doral, Miami Springs, other places have free events open to the public. You really have to get out there and see what is available.

[rogerbacon]

The OP is correct about how hard it is to make friends in Miami-Dade and I've got bad news for him--it gets worse after you get out of college. I actually found is somewhat easy to make a couple of friends in FIU but afterwards nothing. If FIU still has their anime club you can try that. It used to meet in the auditorim and watch anime on the big screen for four and a half hours on Thursday nights. They had a 30 minute intermission and it was pretty easy to make friends there. It's low stress and if you don't feel like talking you can just sit back and watch the anime. Also, since it's all in Japanese (with English subtitles) its like a neutral ground between the Spanish and English speakers. lol.