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I am not sure if I understand your statement "there is a little bit of that everywhere, especially if you are different, or live differently"
My problem with the area I am in does not have anything to do with our homeschooling. There is actually a good number of homeschoolers nearby and even more due to COVID19 this year! I also do not think that any of my children fall into a category of being very different. They fortunately do not have many challenges either.
I just sit here and look around and do not want my children to think that being "fake" is okay. I want them to have friendships that will last a lifetime. While I certainly do teach them that, I want them to be able to see the difference. To find a place where that is not the norm. I want them to have mentors. A home away from home at school or in the neighborhood. I know it exists. I just want to know where that might be in NH.
We actually visit Lebanon frequently. I agree with you that I would not consider that the best little town. It definitely has a good feel to parts of it. Maybe it is the best NH has to offer? That would make me very sad.
The best that NH has to offer are things that you aren't concerned with...independence, privacy, natural beauty, low taxes. I'm not sure that this state is a good fit for you. While people are neighborly here, I don't think the "it takes a village" philosophy predominates.
Well perhaps the issue is me then since you apparently think I wrote something that makes the state "not a good fit" for me. Although I do have to admit that I appreciate the curtness over the VT experience we are living (honesty is a virtue.) I most definitely am already attracted to the state for those and other reasons. Otherwise, I would not be considering the state. I have lived there before but was too remote for my liking (no neighbors or nearby amenities).
The intent of this post was to narrow down towns where the kids would be happy. Good schools/community specifically. I do have to admit that I would be surprised if the state did not have a good community. That said, it has been difficult to locate one within the specified area are am looking in.
While people are neighborly here, I don't think the "it takes a village" philosophy predominates.
Agree with this completely. I was surprised by how nice everyone was when we moved here and then realized that everyone seems to keep to themselves mostly.
While people are neighborly here, I don't think the "it takes a village" philosophy predominates.
Agree with this completely. I was surprised by how nice everyone was when we moved here and then realized that everyone seems to keep to themselves mostly.
That has always been a New England trait. While reality shows it is less so in the urban areas of some of the states, for the most part people like to do their own thing and not seek to interact with others.
In my travels around the country, quite a few people think New Englanders are rude or *******s because of this trait.
That has always been a New England trait. While reality shows it is less so in the urban areas of some of the states, for the most part people like to do their own thing and not seek to interact with others.
In my travels around the country, quite a few people think New Englanders are rude or *******s because of this trait.
People in northern New England have always been very independent as well as respectful of other people's privacy. That's not to say they won't lend you a hand if you need it. I think this may be partly due to the rural nature of the area and resultant geographical isolation.
Maybe that's why you've noted differences in the urban or southern part of NH, where many people are transplants from elsewhere and likely came from places with higher population density and therefore more social interaction. Just a guess.
I’ve lived in other states that are much more passive aggressive but people are still... distant. I really think that “village“ mentality is probably is just not much of a trait anymore in a lot of the US, especially since the rise of technology means we have to rely and interact with others less to get through our daily lives. To be stereotypical, I’ve heard Texas for example still has that big community feel, and I know other souther people I have met have been very... open. I’ve also encountered this in some places a bit more midwestern but never anywhere near the true west coast and it sounds like it isn’t a thing here. That being said I think even with the northeast gruffness, it’s a lot more friendly in my opinion than the west coast, everyone is suspect passive aggressive, don’t really say what you mean culture.
You should look into NH homeschooling groups on FB. Towns vary widely as to how they treat homeschoolers. Some nice and flexible, some are not. If you want info from "real" people -I think that's your best option - get opinions from people who have been homeschooling in NH.
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