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The other day I was visiting my parents like I do every weekend and all of the cousins, adult children and immediate family members get other as a family and have BBQ, pool time and family time for the kids. I caught my 4 yr old son laying down on the bed with his 7 yr old female cousin laying a the bed(after pool time ) resting and watching cartoons. They other female child kept closing the door...I walked in 3 times and they were under the covers and the female cousin would jump up startled. I questioned what they were doing and told them no under the covers and to leave the door open but my gut said so,etching was wrong. Later when we left I asked my 4 yr what were they doing and of course he lied, made excuses and go very stressed and upset.well, finally he told me that he was sleeping and his female 7 yr old cousin whispered in his ear to see and touch his pee pee. He told me he was scared and uncomfortable and kept pretending to sleep and she opened his button, unzipped his pants, took out his penis, was talking to it by saying hello with her face practically touching it and she told him"pretend your peeper is a hand and I want to shake your hand". He demonstrated to me what was done and basically she masturbated him, smacked his peeper, made him turn over, smacked his butt and laid on top of him. I asked him how did this touching stop and he said when pee pee came out of my private part and she got it on her hand.i assured him that he did nothing wrong and that nobody- not even a child should touch him...I'm very disturbed ....how would a 7 yr old girl learn to do this....my son has never been exposed to sex, pornography and we drilled in his head since 1 yr that nobody touches him and vice versa...my neices family has a very dysfunctional upbringing and I know my sister will not address the issue. I consulted with a doctor who dp said to separate and supervise them at all times but I'm scared what if now my son does this to another child....why would a little girl say pretend it's a hand and I'm sharing your hand...then she said she "wow, you have a really small hand(meaning his pee pee).....do you think she is being abused? Im sick over this. Any advise would be appreciated.
I would just say to keep am eye on things yourself. If you start anything with any officials or those so called psychologists in this state they will destroy you, your families and your kids. Its a big scam in NJ and once they have "customers" that's the end of everybody.
Your child needs to know in no uncertain terms this behavior is totally unacceptable. You may need to enlist professional help, you be the judge of that.
As far as your sister, I would so be right in her face about what happened, it's possible at worst your neice is being abused or at the least she is exposed to things she shouldn't be.
Have you discussed with your parents or other siblings?
Your child needs to know in no uncertain terms this behavior is totally unacceptable. You may need to enlist professional help, you be the judge of that.
As far as your sister, I would so be right in her face about what happened, it's possible at worst your neice is being abused or at the least she is exposed to things she shouldn't be.
Have you discussed with your parents or other siblings?
Instead of a possibility, I would say that it is rather definite that this 7 year old girl is a victim of sexual abuse. Children are indeed curious, but her aggressive curiosity is a very strong indicator that she has been the victim of sexual abuse.
In effect, she is carrying out what she has experienced, and even if she has not been physically violated, the mere exposure of a child to sexual situations constitutes sexual abuse.
Instead of a possibility, I would say that it is rather definite that this 7 year old girl is a victim of sexual abuse. Children are indeed curious, but her aggressive curiosity is a very strong indicator that she has been the victim of sexual abuse.
In effect, she is carrying out what she has experienced, and even if she has not been physically violated, the mere exposure of a child to sexual situations constitutes sexual abuse.
Actually while it's a good possibility we don't actually know now do we? We didn't witness what happened and don't know the people involved.
It may be she's exposed to things she shouldn't be, like sex, porn etc
It may be she's exposed to things she shouldn't be, like sex, porn etc
I think you missed one of the points that I made.
The mere exposure of a child to pornography, or forcing them to watch sexual acts, DOES constitute sexual abuse, even if there is no physical aspect to the abuse.
I think you missed one of the points that I made. The mere exposure of a child to pornography, or forcing them to watch sexual acts, DOES constitute sexual abuse, even if there is no physical aspect to the abuse.
It may not have been intentional, just carelessness on part of her parents.
Without being involved I make no statements that child is actually being abused. Possibly yes, but I don't know for sure.
Hopefully her uncle the o/p will speak with his sister and perhaps other family members to see what is going on!
Before you report to the police, why not just go talk to the girls parents first?
Maybe the 7 year old saw something she wasn't suppose and was curious about it. You shouldn't be sick over this...
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