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Starting this thread in search of recent feedback / experiences with the NJ Divorce system. Has anyone been able to get a reduction in alimony and / or child support payments? Anyone who had a lousy divorce lawyer and what did you do if anything?
If you are facing hardship, such as a job loss, there is a site which may help you. I am not sure if I can post a link to another site on this one. I searched NJ Divorce System Lower Alimony and a site comes up near the top which does talk about divorced men in your state having problems because of the high rate of unemployment.
If on the other hand you have a good job I doubt there is little that can be done.
Starting this thread in search of recent feedback / experiences with the NJ Divorce system. Has anyone been able to get a reduction in alimony and / or child support payments? Anyone who had a lousy divorce lawyer and what did you do if anything?
You're in the wrong forum for legal advice. You should be consulting with a lawyer. Consultation fees are usually a lesser amount than an hourly rate. You need to know exactly what your legal rights are based on your specific situation and no one here can answer that.
You're in the wrong forum for legal advice. You should be consulting with a lawyer. Consultation fees are usually a lesser amount than an hourly rate. You need to know exactly what your legal rights are based on your specific situation and no one here can answer that.
Sorry ... looking back at my original post, I guess I sounded too serious. Not looking for legal advice. Just thought it would be an interesting topic since I am newly divorced. How can I edit my post. Thanks
Yes, 2015 is the year of my divorce. Alimony / Child Support is part of the deal. I believe in ensuring that my children are taken care of .... even though their mother is not capable of doing so. Fortunately, my kids are older teenagers.
I wanted to start a thread specifically on the topic of divorce in New Jersey. Prior to my situation, I had heard horror stories about how men are skewered in the divorce process. Now, I must (sadly) say I have joined this special club.
I now realize that my lawyer did not do an exceptionally good job for me .... but his hands was probably tied by legal precedent. Basically, I got worn out by a long and acrimonious process...and settled after battling for 2+ years.
So....you have to pull your share in the divorce....exactly what don't you think is fair....
Have you been divorced? Exactly what is "your share"? My share was exactly what I voluntarily gave my ex-wife before any courts were dragged into it. In fact, after the first hearing after our separation the amount I was voluntarily paying monthly was actually reduced. This caused my ex-wife to get a new lawyer. They brought in bogus receipts that were hand written by her friends for all manner of "services". After all the carry-on I ended up paying $300 more per month than the "guidelines". In fact I am still paying "day care" expenses after 20 years of ongoing support because I don't have the stomach for another court battle. I get physically ill at the thought of it. But how typical to imagine the o.p. doesn't want to pay any child support at all. That's what every woman thinks. My ex tells everyone I don't pay any child support. My payroll department knows better. They all wonder why I keep working.
No problem in pulling my share; however, the income numbers used were abnormally high due to one-time bonuses over a 3yr period. During the divorce process, my ex-wife left her job voluntarily .... took a 50% salary decrease due to stress conditions. Her former income was never used as her basis whereas my 45% average bonus for 3 years came into play.
As a professional, I am now under-employed (who isn't in NJ) which is under the salary number used to calculate alimony / child support. After failing for the 3rd time in the past 2 months to land a job closer to my former earnings, I am now looking at reality. My income is too low to get a mortgage because as part of the divorce agreement, the mortgage is still in my name. This means I get a double whammy....my obligations include child support/alimony PLUS the mortgage/taxes on my former home which my ex now has. My ex has up to 12 months to re-finance the mortgage...so until then, those obligations are still technically mine since my name is on it.
So ... you let the judge decide this for you or was it negotiated?
If negotiated, why did you allow those numbers to be used?
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