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Old 08-05-2020, 02:14 PM
 
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A large tree branch (about 15 ft long) from my tree fell during yesterday's storm on my neighbors' yard. She comes knocking on my door asking me to remove it, even kindly offering the use of a saw or their landscaping service who will do it for a small fee.

For me, it's no big deal to remove it. I can chop it up, probably take me an hour or so. However the way she's going about it just rubs me the wrong way. As far as I can tell it's not necessarily my responsibility either since it's their yard. What would you do?
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Old 08-05-2020, 02:17 PM
 
Location: On the Chesapeake
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Generally speaking it isn't your responsibility. Any overhang from your tree becomes her problem, she could have trimmed that limb back to the property line had she wanted.

If you don't like her what amounts to a demand don't do anything.
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Old 08-05-2020, 02:19 PM
 
Location: Bergen County, NJ
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What would be the right way for her to go about it?
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Old 08-05-2020, 02:25 PM
 
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What would be the right way for her to go about it?
I would understand that she can't do it by herself and help out if she requested it instead of shoving all the responsibility on me.
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Old 08-05-2020, 02:30 PM
 
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I would understand that she can't do it by herself and help out if she requested it instead of shoving all the responsibility on me.
“For me, it’s no big deal to remove it”. Really? Kind of sounds like it is.
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Old 08-05-2020, 02:32 PM
 
Location: Rochester, WA
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If you had been ready for the first conversation, I'd have told her that it isn't really your responsibility, but you'll help her if she would like help.

A 15 foot long branch isn't worth two conversations and bargaining though. Opportunity has passed. If you already told her you'd do something with it, then I would drag it to your side and take care of it.
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Old 08-05-2020, 02:32 PM
 
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If I were in her shoes, the first thing I would have done is come to CD forum to ask whose responsibility it is!
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Old 08-05-2020, 02:35 PM
 
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Generally speaking it isn't your responsibility. Any overhang from your tree becomes her problem, she could have trimmed that limb back to the property line had she wanted.

If you don't like her what amounts to a demand don't do anything.
It's funny how it works that way (if it indeed does), because I can tell you the parts of the tree that grow underground are every bit the tree owner's responsibility...
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Old 08-05-2020, 02:36 PM
 
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“For me, it’s no big deal to remove it”. Really? Kind of sounds like it is.
Yes, it's no big deal but how a person approaches you is also important, yes? Aside from that, I don't want to establish a precedent that every time this happens, they can expect me to do it.
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Old 08-05-2020, 02:40 PM
 
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If you had been ready for the first conversation, I'd have told her that it isn't really your responsibility, but you'll help her if she would like help.

A 15 foot long branch isn't worth two conversations and bargaining though. Opportunity has passed. If you already told her you'd do something with it, then I would drag it to your side and take care of it.
Yeah, too late for that. I moved in about 6 months ago, only lived in apartments and condos before this.
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