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YA YA ... I'm a pyscho magnet. I tend to attract these successful, driven, arrogant, pompous, and narassitic men who are controlling and a bit white-collar nerdy ... Ack !
How do I break that ?!
Here's my list of desires: I need a nice down-to-earth, funny, warm, outgoing, gregarious, respectful, sporty, non-smoking, ocean-sport loving, sushi-eating, affectionate/soft/nurturing type of guy ...
So you're looking for a metro sexual sortakinda guy, huh? w/ a touch of been in the closet perhaps?
Relax woman.....there's no rush for you....if you're as smart and sexy and beautiful and the bag of chips you say you are (and I'm not debating that) you'll find your prince charming soon enough.
YA YA ... I'm a pyscho magnet. I tend to attract these successful, driven, arrogant, pompous, and narassitic men who are controlling and a bit white-collar nerdy ... Ack !
How do I break that ?!
By calling the shots. You choose them, don't wait for them to choose you.
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Here's my list of desires: I need a nice down-to-earth, funny, warm, outgoing, gregarious, respectful, sporty, non-smoking, ocean-sport loving, sushi-eating, affectionate/soft/nurturing type of guy ...
Wrong place to post this (-; Try a dating profile . I'd suggest removing "funny" from the list of things you want (it's too cliched, everyone wants someone with "a good sense of humor").
YA YA ... I'm a pyscho magnet. I tend to attract these successful, driven, arrogant, pompous, and narassitic men who are controlling and a bit white-collar nerdy ... Ack !
How do I break that ?!
Here's my list of desires: I need a nice down-to-earth, funny, warm, outgoing, gregarious, respectful, sporty, non-smoking, ocean-sport loving, sushi-eating, affectionate/soft/nurturing type of guy ...
some people are just not too social. I talk to alot of people but I dont have a ton of friends and they are all wrapped up in work, or kids which I dont have either of the two. This does not make me insecure just different! However the jealousy crap is and means a domestic violence type of person. RUN!
How old are you/him? I have to say for a long time I was never able to just be friends with girls, and if I was, the only ones I was friends with where the pretty ones that I kept in my circle in case I needed someone as more than just a friend. Generally, guys hanging out with hot girls may seem like just friends, but I bet you deep down they are waiting for you to be vulnerable and get with them.
I do disagree with you on the fact that you "dont need to make them feel secure". If this is someone you actually like, I think you do NEED to make them feel secure. If you can do that, and try, he won't be freaking out like this.
You sound like my ex, it was all about her, whatever she wanted to do, and didn't feel a need to make me feel secure (she tarnished her name to begin with, with the security issue, thats another story). So we are done now because she couldn't figure out how to make me feel secure, even when I spelled it out.
Actually, in the beginning of our relationship, my SO thought that even though my longtime friend was gay, he was secretly pining for me all those years. There was some jealousy and insecurity there at first, but I knew he would get past that... and he did! It was totally worth it in our case, but if the guy shows signs of being possessive and even a little bit violent, FORGET IT.
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