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well my Dad called me and said he was sorry. He basically is fine when he is away from that death camp. I guess when he sees mom it becomes an emotional mess. Today she looked bad, eyes rolled back, and just terrible. I can see how this fight started I mean it was very very gloomy. NO more food, water, nothing so its just death. I told dad I was sorry and we made up. This is just hard on us, and we kinda let it out . Its just a scene, I mean here is my mother dying and were fighting right over the almost dead body. I am kinda laughing right now just thinking back on this is like a bad comedy movie scene.
I am so sorry. Hang on there, Marilyn. Try not to yell back at your dad; it usually makes things worse. Just be next to your mom. Talk to her. She might still hear you. My thoughts are with you.
Very Sad, this is about your Mother. There will be plenty of time to air your differences. I guess human nature and stress alone at a time as this can prevail. Focus. You will never have this time again, live and learn. The picture in my minds eye is Your Mother is No More, give her the dignity she deserves.
Social workers can be a good thing, thinking back when my Dad passed, I could not believe how inept we were with regard to what next, what should we do, who should we call. You are at a stage where death is inevitable plans need to be realized.
I am sorry for your pain, please forgive me if I seem abrupt.
Death of a loved one is a very solemn and heart wrenching time.
May you find peace
So, she was put on oxygen (and off of it, now)? >_< That does make it painful to watch. We can see how long it takes for the human body to live without those two essentials. I can understand how unbearable it is just to wait and wait with complete anxiety. Just be patient a little longer.
At least, it's great that you and your Dad made up from your disagreements. It would be terrible if the outcome just went a totally different direction. You guys got to look out for each other once this passes. It's important to have that family bond even through this death process.
Well today was just terrible. You think it cant get worse and it does. Holy moly when is this going to end. Well finally I said to the nurse in private I cant take anymore of this when will this be over. SHe said very very soon.
They are getting morphine drip today, she is completely non responsive, one eye with a slight slit open , the other shut. Breathing shallow. I think tonight is gonna be it or definately tommorrow. I cant take anymore either, I went from 9 am - 145 today and I said to dad , I got to go. Kissed mom goodbye and said of course I love you.
Here is my problem I feel guilty that I am not still sitting there, even though Im the only kid there and she is out of it. I just cant do this and sit there all god darn day!!! Its terrible. Am I wrong , I have been there every day not all day but everyday. I said my good bye, I just cant sit there anymore. I feel now guilty again. My whole life is feeling guilty!!!
Well today was just terrible. You think it cant get worse and it does. Holy moly when is this going to end. Well finally I said to the nurse in private I cant take anymore of this when will this be over. SHe said very very soon.
They are getting morphine drip today, she is completely non responsive, one eye with a slight slit open , the other shut. Breathing shallow. I think tonight is gonna be it or definately tommorrow. I cant take anymore either, I went from 9 am - 145 today and I said to dad , I got to go. Kissed mom goodbye and said of course I love you.
Here is my problem I feel guilty that I am not still sitting there, even though Im the only kid there and she is out of it. I just cant do this and sit there all god darn day!!! Its terrible. Am I wrong , I have been there every day not all day but everyday. I said my good bye, I just cant sit there anymore. I feel now guilty again. My whole life is feeling guilty!!!
Don't you dare feel guilty about this Marilyn. That person you are seeing isn't really your mother, just an unfair reminder of her. Saying goodbye at this stage is very understandable. The only counter-argument that can me made at this stage is that she can still hear you, and as long as you are talking to her, she can die and not be alone while doing so. The only way to make this real is to keep talking to her while you are there, and I think the act of doing so is probably more than anyone in a similar situation can bear.
As I said about 100 posts ago in this thread, Jack Kevorkian should be canonized. For this situation to be allowed to continue is nothing short of inhumane and barbaric, if you ask me. But I digress. You've done more of your share of heavy lifting. And you should be proud.
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