Northern New Jersey-Where to meet singles over 30

[Mightyqueen801]

Illusions, the club at the Sheraton Crossroads in Mahwah, used to always have an over-30 singles night on Saturdays. There's a DJ and dancing and in the nice weather they put out food on the lawn outside. Haven't been there in years, but I think it's still going on. It's mostly the usual suspects, but a friend of mine did meet someone and later married him.

[BergenCountyJohnny]

Church is a good place to meet people. Or Las Vegas.

[sPlat]

I think there is a reason why there are not many responses here. Also a reason why they call these towns 'bedroom towns', but anyway I'm going to add a question because I don't know either:

I tried the fitness centers but everyone is too hung up on getting a workout in, even if they see my face daily they wont stop when I say hello;

I tried events and festivals, but going alone is perceived as stalking irregardless of how much I smile;

I don't drink (much) or smoke and anyway I typically end up sitting next to some guy(s) who pound down the drinks and tell me how bad life is;

I've tried the supermarket thing, but after I find what I want it is just creepy to hang around, because then I feel like I AM stalking.

There are 'open' country clubs, like the Basking Ridge Golf Bar that I want to go to in the spring, has anyone heard about that or similar places where being alone isn't "A SIGN"?

[Mightyqueen801]

Originally Posted by sPlat

I think there is a reason why there are not many responses here. Also a reason why they call these towns 'bedroom towns', but anyway I'm going to add a question because I don't know either:

I tried the fitness centers but everyone is too hung up on getting a workout in, even if they see my face daily they wont stop when I say hello;

I tried events and festivals, but going alone is perceived as stalking irregardless of how much I smile;

I don't drink (much) or smoke and anyway I typically end up sitting next to some guy(s) who pound down the drinks and tell me how bad life is;

I've tried the supermarket thing, but after I find what I want it is just creepy to hang around, because then I feel like I AM stalking.

There are 'open' country clubs, like the Basking Ridge Golf Bar that I want to go to in the spring, has anyone heard about that or similar places where being alone isn't "A SIGN"?

Take a class a one of the local continuing education schools (usually held at local high schools)?

Do the NYC walking tours?
http://www.bigonion.com/

That dreaded old standby: volunteer somewhere?

Mind you, I'm just throwing these things out there--I've been alone for YEARS, but I'm probably a lot older than you are.

Re the country club: Do you actually play golf? Maybe you should take lessons. That is something you can do alone if need be but might likely meet someone with the same interest.