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Who has a rehearsal in the afternoon? That's asking a lot for the whole bridal and families to take a day off of work.
They're usually at 5pm or so on Friday. Which if you're not local and need to travel means you need to take a half or whole day off. If anyone's been in a wedding recently, this is pretty normal stuff.
I would mention it when you are offered the position. However, rather than just to say that you need the day off for the wedding, which is not a huge deal, offer to work the missed hours leading up to the Friday off. Explain that you have the wedding situation, and say that you are prepared to stay late/come early, and do so without stating that it compensates for the vacation time. You would be new on the job, so giving the employer a vacation day in free work during that week would not be a bad situation, and some employers would not say that it is necessary, while others would gladly thank you for the offer and appreciate the commitment.
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They're usually at 5pm or so on Friday. Which if you're not local and need to travel means you need to take a half or whole day off. If anyone's been in a wedding recently, this is pretty normal stuff.
I have been in a few weddings and all of the rehearsals took place in the evening bc most people had work. I'm finding this all very strange.
I have been in a few weddings and all of the rehearsals took place in the evening bc most people had work. I'm finding this all very strange.
5pm is the evening. What time were you rehearsing- 10pm? And what about those who had to travel in from another city/state to be in the wedding? It's really not the strangest thing to have the rehearsal at 5 or so and the rehearsal dinner immediately afterwards at 6:30 or 7. If you're having your wedding at a place that does a lot of Friday evening weddings, then the rehearsal could very well be earlier in the
afternoon.
Every wedding I've ever been in - or the out of town ones where all OOT'ers are invited to rehearsal dinner- has had a rehearsal on Friday between 4-6pm and the dinner following at 6 or 7pm. The one Friday wedding I was in had a Thursday @ 5pm rehearsal.
I don't understand why this thread is so weird to everyone. The OP's sibling's wedding isn't on Friday. Just the rehearsal. And OP's sibling isn't asking all guests to take Friday off- just the family members and close friends who are in the wedding...which is maybe, what?, 15-25 people total? Seriously, not strange at all.
5pm is the evening. What time were you rehearsing- 10pm? And what about those who had to travel in from another city/state to be in the wedding? It's really not the strangest thing to have the rehearsal at 5 or so and the rehearsal dinner immediately afterwards at 6:30 or 7. If you're having your wedding at a place that does a lot of Friday evening weddings, then the rehearsal could very well be earlier in the
afternoon.
Every wedding I've ever been in - or the out of town ones where all OOT'ers are invited to rehearsal dinner- has had a rehearsal on Friday between 4-6pm and the dinner following at 6 or 7pm. The one Friday wedding I was in had a Thursday @ 5pm rehearsal.
I don't understand why this thread is so weird to everyone. The OP's sibling's wedding isn't on Friday. Just the rehearsal. And OP's sibling isn't asking all guests to take Friday off- just the family members and close friends who are in the wedding...which is maybe, what?, 15-25 people total? Seriously, not strange at all.
People don't get it! Tricked themselves into thinking jobs and housing are more scarce than they really are! And all of their transplant friends feed into it by patting themselves on the back every time one lands a crappy job or a crappy apartment...The other day one of our dispatchers came into work in a designer suit (she works in a booth in a garage). I was like "Halloween is a ways away" and she was like "I'm meeting a landlord right after work!!!"
Close family getting married is an acceptable reason to miss work even if you're newly hired. However, I agree with others that you should qualify for the job first, get an offer and accept, and then discuss. Personally I wouldn't want to work somewhere that wouldn't let me attend my sister or close relative's wedding. I'm in the type of job where we don't even feel right to take a sick day, and still I can't imagine being denied going to a family member's wedding.
Personally I wouldn't want to work somewhere that wouldn't let me attend my sister or close relative's wedding.
If you were out of work in this economy, and had nothing in your kitchen but a box of crackers and a jar of honey with fuzz growing in it, yes you would.
to the OP: I hope you get the job and are able to keep it. You're taking a serious job risk whether you realize it or not by asking for a day off (assuming you get hired). If your boss lets it slide, you're very lucky. If they don't and let you go, well... You've been warned...
If you were out of work in this economy, and had nothing in your kitchen but a box of crackers and a jar of honey with fuzz growing in it, yes you would.
to the OP: I hope you get the job and are able to keep it. You're taking a serious job risk whether you realize it or not by asking for a day off (assuming you get hired). If your boss lets it slide, you're very lucky. If they don't and let you go, well... You've been warned...
What are all these communist jobs where no one EVER gets a day off and those who do have a boss who allows a vaca day to "slide"? Taking an already planned day off isn't "A MAJOR JOB RISK." Maybe some of you have been out of work so long that you've forgotten what benefits are....
I get 4 weeks paid vacation. Even the scrubs right out of college get 2 weeks, as do the admins who usually only have a GED.
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