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can't believe people are saying 36 or 37 is old. Smh. I get checked out more now than I did in my 20s.
That is because you are now low hanging fruit (literally). Men are lazy and more often go after what they think they can get versus what they really want.
If we only went after what we really wanted there would be far less one-night stands.
I have asked myself a million times, why is it so difficult to meet Mr. Right in NYC? What am I doing wrong? I don't think that I'm asking for too much, typically I look for guys that have a similar background as myself. I am interested in finding a nice guy who is loving, caring, spiritually inclined, family oriented, ambitious, and professional.
Perhaps it's my age that is working against me. I'm 36! Is it too late for me to meet the right guy, get married and have a family? Should I pack my bags and head for Texas or is it still possible to find love and committment in NYC?
Not that I'm making light of your predicament but this thread is funny. I'm in NYC often, and from my observations I disagree with your view that you're not asking for too much. My single buddies who live in the city would also disagree with you. They are proof that there are men in the city who probably exceed your criteria and who are looking for a woman. Of course, it helps if you're intelligent, professional, don't have kids, traveled, cultured, young(ish), have a hot body, extremely goodlooking... Unfortunately, I've had to listen to them and their list of 'musts', too. And they are also puzzled about why they are still single. You see, the more items you've got on that list the more unlikely it becomes that you will meet anyone who meets all those expectations.
I don't buy the argument that there are too many people and too much competition in NYC. I'm more inclined to believe that the large number of people living there increases the likelihood of meeting somebody. The reason you haven't met anyone may have more to do with your list of exclusions than you realize. Its fine to have standards, but sometimes we have better experiences when we lighten up a little. If you talk to the men you meet as though you're comparing them to your checklist you'll scare them off. Put the list away. Open your mind to meeting different kinds of men, then go out on dates, not because you're desperate to find a husband and future father of your kids, but just to have fun. Let things develop on their own from there.
I have asked myself a million times, why is it so difficult to meet Mr. Right in NYC? What am I doing wrong? I don't think that I'm asking for too much, typically I look for guys that have a similar background as myself. I am interested in finding a nice guy who is loving, caring, spiritually inclined, family oriented, ambitious, and professional.
Perhaps it's my age that is working against me. I'm 36! Is it too late for me to meet the right guy, get married and have a family? Should I pack my bags and head for Texas or is it still possible to find love and committment in NYC?
Oh nooooo, look at his teeth.
As a New Yorker I look at three things why meeting someone can be difficult. The three things are time, trust and their is always something better around the corner, well maybe. You can figure this things out on your own or have probably been through it in one way shape or forum.
I'm sure you like reading the Gothamist. Here take a quick glance at this!
I have asked myself a million times, why is it so difficult to meet Mr. Right in NYC? What am I doing wrong? I don't think that I'm asking for too much, typically I look for guys that have a similar background as myself. I am interested in finding a nice guy who is loving, caring, spiritually inclined, family oriented, ambitious, and professional.
Perhaps it's my age that is working against me. I'm 36! Is it too late for me to meet the right guy, get married and have a family? Should I pack my bags and head for Texas or is it still possible to find love and committment in NYC?
Whatever you do, don't settle. It's best to do what is necessary to find Mr. Right (who has all or most of your desired traits and beliefs) or be happy alone while searching for him, instead of settling for anyone.
Also, don't rule out relocating to Texas if you are able to secure good employment. Austin and Dallas are known for having single, marriage minded/family oriented guys.
Whatever you do, don't settle. It's best to do what is necessary to find Mr. Right (who has all or most of your desired traits and beliefs) or be happy alone while searching for him, instead of settling for anyone.
Also, don't rule out relocating to Texas if you are able to secure good employment. Austin and Dallas are known for having single, marriage minded/family oriented guys.
I agree, settling accomplishes nothing but depression.
Guys in NYC can date 20 somethings up until about age 40. I don't know why, but younger women there are into older men. Probably because younger guys in NYC are usually broke and/or morons. My bud who is 37 just got married to a 27 year old, after dating for 4 years. This seemed normal in my circle of friends and looking around seemed normal in general. If you are 36 and trying to find someone your own age in NYC you are SoL. There are a lot of frazzled mid 30 something women living out the final season of Sex and the City. I don't know about Texas, but suggest Boulder, Colorado. There are loads of single 30 something guys there and the younger women are tied up in the college scene and aren't really interested in dating computer programmer triathlete type dudes.
Guys in NYC can date 20 somethings up until about age 40. I don't know why, but younger women there are into older men. Probably because younger guys in NYC are usually broke and/or morons. My bud who is 37 just got married to a 27 year old, after dating for 4 years. This seemed normal in my circle of friends and looking around seemed normal in general. If you are 36 and trying to find someone your own age in NYC you are SoL. There are a lot of frazzled mid 30 something women living out the final season of Sex and the City. I don't know about Texas, but suggest Boulder, Colorado. There are loads of single 30 something guys there and the younger women are tied up in the college scene and aren't really interested in dating computer programmer triathlete type dudes.
Not sure why 27-year-old women would, in general, want to marry men who are 10 years older than them. Yes, I know the 37-year old guy has made the money. But in my circle of friends and relatives, I can't thing of a single age gap that is more than three years. And my assumption is that is the norm, not 10 years. I met my wife when we were both 29, and she would never have considered marrying a guy 10 years older than her.
And ladies, most men don't age so well. If you are youthful looking and stay youthful looking, in 15 or 20 years strangers will think you're walking with your dad.
Not sure why 27-year-old women would, in general, want to marry men who are 10 years older than them. Yes, I know the 37-year old guy has made the money. But in my circle of friends and relatives, I can't thing of a single age gap that is more than three years. And my assumption is that is the norm, not 10 years. I met my wife when we were both 29, and she would never have considered marrying a guy 10 years older than her.
And ladies, most men don't age so well. If you are youthful looking and stay youthful looking, in 15 or 20 years strangers will think you're walking with your dad.
I am in my 30s but look around 24 or so. I find it funny that most of the guys who are my age look so much older. Sometimes I have to remind myself that these guys are in their 30s and not old men.
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