Why are most people so rude? (New York, Boston: college, to live, restaurants)
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Seems like most people believe that New Yorkers are habitually rude. My husband(Brooklyn,Ny) says New Yorkers are blunt, and yes, rude. Lol but, he also tells me that people will take my kindness as a weakness. Do most New Yorkers believe that? I refuse to live there, I'm from Texas, and I can't seem to stop having manners, and I can't help but to treat people the way I'd like to be treated. He can't stand the thought of anyone, "getting over" on him. We've been together almost 18 years, but we still disagree about people, and how to get along with people. He loves to argue, but I sure love to hear his NY accent lol(still).
On the street, in restaurants and shops and in your building, most people are polite. But New York teenagers with attitude but no brains or those who have never outgrown that phase (seemingly a large component of this forum) may often give the wrong impression of NYC residents as a whole.
I think most New Yorkers are quite polite,at least a basic level of politeness.
The city would never function as well as it does - very few incidents,for example,on the VERY crowded subway system- if New Yorkers did not have a basic level of politeness and consideration.
As for superfluous politeness, the "have a nice day" stuff : no,we are not big on that.
One thing I do notice is that New Yorkers are actually friendly (even being from such a big city) and more willing to chat with strangers than even people in the NJ suburbs of NYC,which is right across the river. Not quite sure why people get less friendly once you cross the river into NJ.
Just because people here don't say howdy ya'll and/or get involved in the business of everyone around them doesn't mean they're rude. They are probably more prone to keeping to themselves. I think a lot of people are actually surprised when they visit that most people aren't rude.
Don't know---I have found there are always rude people no matter where I travel---doesn't matter where they're from.
New Yorkers are willing to give and lend a hand on time of need. This action I just mentioned makes us nice. We will go out of our way to help people. Yesterday I helped a woman who lost her phone and was able to track it down.
As for attitude? New Yorkers attitude is the worst out of the whole entire country IMHO. Thanks to gentrification, suburban, elitist, pretentious culture of college educated white and token white millennials might change nyc cultural attitude.
Op, most of the answers you're going to get our things like they are too authentic to be polite or they are too busy or they are just too real and show you their real selves instead of showing you their fake selves...or piles of other b.s. to basically excuse themselves from having basic courtesy and manners.
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They are probably more prone to keeping to themselves. I think a lot of people are actually surprised when they visit that most people aren't rude.
