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You also sound like a bit of a drama queen. If it is her birthday and you were a real friend, you would want to go FOR HER - but instead, you are thinking only about yourself and your hurt feelings.
Suck it up and do something for your "so-called" friend, if you really value her at all and not just as your pacifier or therapist.
I'm always there if she needs someone to talk to. I help her with school. I guess I try to be upbeat when I can -- I think I have a decent sense of humor. And we don't always talk about my problems.
But yeah. Sometimes I wonder why she's even friends with me. Doesn't make much sense.
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I know. I'm going to go. But I just feel like she may not really want me there.
I'll try to have a good time, but it's really hard. I just don't really care about anything right now. The horrible thing is that I know I shouldn't bug her with stuff like this too much, but because I'm so needy/dependent, if I don't, then I feel even worse. I hate this.
Thursday, I know you're right. And I hate myself for not being able to handle things on my own. And because I don't trust anyone else, I don't have anyone else to talk stuff about. So it's just a horrible combination for me. Do you agree that I should not talk to her for a while?
Yeah, unfortunately I do suggest letting it go for awhile, save the drama for the therapist and when you are more grounded then try to reconnect with her. In some cases and with some people, they remain in a state of limbo in your life, but in your life none of the less, because if you are down very deeply they would not want to feel responsible if you do yourself harm. You may not have any intention of doing that - but its someone else's perception. Essentially, it's pity. No one wants to hear you drone on and on about the problems your having - and often you don't have to say a word, just the vibe you give off is enough to convince another person to put up those orange barrels you see on the highway around you.
Okay. I guess it's problematic because we have a couple classes together. But I guess I can try. I hope she'll forgive him.
Just keep upbeat when you see her in class and/or be cordial. Say hello to her, ask her how she's been or how her weekend was or did she do whatever activity went on that weekend in school and say that's great. You don't have to ignore her completely under the circumstances.
Quick question: You used the word HIM in your post - are you asking about yourself or someone else or are there multiple personalities at stake here.
Just keep upbeat when you see her in class and/or be cordial. Say hello to her, ask her how she's been or how her weekend was or did she do whatever activity went on that weekend in school and say that's great. You don't have to ignore her completely under the circumstances.
Quick question: You used the word HIM in your post - are you asking about yourself or someone else or are there multiple personalities at stake here.
Oh okay, I'll just do that then. Thanks for the input. That seems like a good plan of action.
Oh, I am asking about myself... I'm not sure why I wrote 'him' at all. Maybe I wasn't paying enough attention or something.
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