How often do you get together with female friends

[West of Encino]

Never

[Stumbler.]

Never really thought of it. As often as I get together with male friends, I suppose.

Most of my friends I meet up in real life with are quite busy, so often a few times a year. Gender doesn't figure in to any of it, only individuals' lifestyles.

[Doll Eyes]

handful of times a year w/ one or two women. mostly try to avoid it.

[jade408]

Right now about half of my close female friends are married or in long term relationships and the other half are single like me. I have about 8 really good female friends. 3 of them live ~45 miles away in another part of our metro area. The frequency I see them ranges from 1X every 6 weeks to 1x every 3-4 months. One is a mom of a 1 year old, one is pregnant, and one is a newlywed. Friend number 4 lives 2 miles away and is in a serious relationship, I see here once a month. Another one in a serious relationship lives 300 miles away so I see her 2-3 times a year.

This leaves me with 3 single friends. One spends half of the year abroad for work, and her home base is 90 miles away from me. When she is "off" we get together every 2-3 weeks, and then I don't see her for 4-5 months and the pattern continues.

The other 2 single friends I see roughly every other weekend, because we live close enough (5 miles or less) and have more "free time."

To fill up my social calendar, I use the following techniques:
1. ancillary friends: I am not as close with them as I am my good friends, they are either on the path to being a good friend or stuck in the "friendly acquaintance" zone. Some of these people are coworkers or ex-coworkers and they vary in relationship status, lifestyle and age. I meet up with someone in this category 2X-3X a month
2. Clubs/groups/networking: I am casually involved in a few meet up groups and similar so I head to those meetings when I have time. These are related to hobbies and what not. I am a little over-committed friend-wise so I haven't made an real friendships for these, but that is entirely my fault.
3. Former friends/colleagues/whatever: these are people you might have been close to at one point that drifted out of your life. I tend to run into one of these people and try to reconnect every 3 months or so. Some of them move into the real friend category and other ones stay in acquaintance land but it is good to catch-up. I probably have about 20-30 people in this status at the moment.
4. New people: I meet lots of new people through other people, and some of them end up being really cool. They are usually people I put in the friendship building phase. I end up meeting up with one of these every 6 weeks or so.

I have a lot of trouble keeping up with my good friends. Half of them live so far away. And the ones in my metro area, we are separated by a 1 hour ride with no traffic and 2+ at traffic time, so we have to plan carefully.