Best friend planned her bachelorette party on my birthday. (wife, wedding, holiday)
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The wedding is a year from this month. And the bachelorette party is planned for my birthday. I'm a bridesmaid so I am expected to attend. I am a bit hurt that the planned it for this day as it's a Thursday and she obviously knows when my birthday. There are a 364 other days in the year.
I'm not trying to be harsh, but ..... really? Did you expect her to say, " _____'s birthday is that day so I will just have to have the wedding another day." Really? So she is supposed to plan her wedding around your birthday? I doubt that you figured into her plans. I know plenty of people who celebrate their birthdays on other days for whatever reason. Heck, my birthday was on a Wednesday this year and I waited until the next weekend.
You have a year to make other plans for your birthday. (Hopefully) she is only getting married once, so just go to the wedding and do something that weekend for your birthday.
I'm not trying to be harsh, but ..... really? Did you expect her to say, " _____'s birthday is that day so I will just have to have the wedding another day." Really? So she is supposed to plan her wedding around your birthday? I doubt that you figured into her plans. I know plenty of people who celebrate their birthdays on other days for whatever reason. Heck, my birthday was on a Wednesday this year and I waited until the next weekend.
You have a year to make other plans for your birthday. (Hopefully) she is only getting married once, so just go to the wedding and do something that weekend for your birthday.
It's not her wedding...it's her bachelorette party. There is no rule that says the bacholerette party has to be 2 days before the wedding is there?
Should she have planned for another date? yes. But hopefully you'll enjoy many more birthday parties and this is her only bachelorette's party (although with the high divorce rate who knows).
If she's really your best friend, let her know what she did but then tell her that just because it's her, you wont miss the party. She'll apreciate it, and your friendship will get stronger.
It's not her wedding...it's her bachelorette party. There is no rule that says the bacholerette party has to be 2 days before the wedding is there?
The only "rule" for things like this is what the bride wants. She wants the party to be on that day, so that's the day that she picked. Did you talk to the bride and tell her that you already had plans on your birthday and wouldn't be attending? Or are you going anyway?
I hate to sound harsh, but my mentality is "So...it's your birthday? What's your point?" But then again I just consider my birthday the day I was born and it just happens to occur every year.
Do you already have something arranged for the day of your birthday where it would interfere?
Is it really that big of a deal? It sucks, but she probably wasn't thinking. Don't other people usually plan those things anyways? Maybe she didn't know.
Well I have no idea what I will be doing a year from now for my birthday. It was literally 2 weeks ago. However I was kind of thinking of throwing a big party since I had a low key birthday this year and my birthday falls on a holiday weekend.
I hate to sound harsh, but my mentality is "So...it's your birthday? What's your point?" But then again I just consider my birthday the day I was born and it just happens to occur every year.
This is my take, too.
And I find it kind of egotistical to expect her to make wedding plans around your birthday. If you were a part of her immediate family, maybe.
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Well I have no idea what I will be doing a year from now for my birthday. It was literally 2 weeks ago. However I was kind of thinking of throwing a big party since I had a low key birthday this year and my birthday falls on a holiday weekend.
Forgive me for being harsh, but this thread makes even less sense. I could see if you had huge plans that you didn't want to cancel. But, you don't even have plans yet?
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