Trouble at Work (gossip, workplace, feel)

[Beilua Rose]

There is another co-worker at my job who I don't necessarily dislike but I don't consider to be friends with either. I never really talked to him and would often ignore him because he seemed like he was tense and in a bad mood. Well, I thought that it would be nice and generally ethical to say hi to him along with the rest of my co-workers so I wouldn't be leaving him out. I started greeting him when I saw him and he would respond if other co-workers were around him but if there weren't any other co-workers near us he would COMPLETELY IGNORE ME. He won't respond in anyway, he'll look forward and keep on walking. He thinks I have a crush on him and his assumptions wouldn't bother me BUT it looks like he is about to beat me up if I come anywhere NEAR him. In order for me to do my job there are times that I have to be close to him. His moods have become more erratic and I want to talk to him although I feel unsafe doing so..

I won't talk to any other co-workers or management about it because they seem to really like him. Who knows, maybe his strange behavior will become more apparent as he works at the same place longer..

[Dragonfly8]

How do you know he thinks you have a crush on him?

[Ulysses61]

I'm not understanding what the problem is. In terms of workplace difficulties, this ranks near the bottom of the barrel. Just ignore him, "problem" solved.

[Raena77]

Avoid him. Seems he is a weirdo.

[virgode]

Originally Posted by Beilua Rose

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BUT it looks like he is about to beat me up if I come anywhere NEAR him.

In order for me to do my job there are times that I have to be close to him.

His moods have become more erratic and I want to talk to him although I feel unsafe doing so..

I won't talk to any other co-workers or management about it because they seem to really like him.

Who knows, maybe his strange behavior will become more apparent as he works at the same place longer..

Its possible they don't know.... or they notice the odd behavior and haven't recieved complaints and they aint gonna rock his boat.

Don't talk to co-workers before you go to management, if it should escalate, it only creates gossip.

[behindthescreen]

I'm having the same problem at my office. I tried to go to management and it ended up being my fault

The guy is supposed to be a trainer and he was watching tv and falling asleep on the job!

Some people are wierd. Just ignore him and don't escalate anything.

[Ed_RDNC]

I suspect that you are over-thinking all this. Just treat him with the respect he diserves as a coworker, talk to him at the same level and to the same extent as you would someone else in a similar position to you.

Otherwise you might make the problem worse by picking at it.

[Timmyy]

I love hearing stories of people's work places turning into high school drama.

[tegota]

High school drama? lol Sometimes going to work can feel more like preschool.

[purehuman]

You should do the same as he is to you Beilua Rose...and just IGNORE him!