Does this Old friend not want to catch up? (holiday, Christmas, messages)

[kittycat40]

• • Amanda writes
    
  • Hi Chad,
    
    Sorry for not getting back to you I didn't realize I had messages from you dating back to my birthday! Hope you and your family are having a wonderful holiday season as well!
    
    
    
  • Chad writes
  
  
  
  
• • Hi Amanda,
    
    No problem. Are you going to be in the South Bay for a good amount of time in the near future? I was wondering when you were available to get together?
    
  
  
  
  
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Amanda writes:

• Hi Chad,
  
  
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    I go back home periodically, but it's for such a short time (weekends and such) that I usually want to hangout with family and a couple close friends for the duration. I'm sorry, I don't want to be blunt - just want to be honest about my time at home.
    
    I hope you are doing well and I'm glad we can keep in touch on here! Wish you and your family a Merry Christmas!
    
    Peace and love to you and your family,
    Amanda
    
  
  
  
  

Chad writes:

• • Hi Amanda,
    
  • That is totally understandable to want to use short weekends to be with family and close friends. I was thinking of getting together whenever you happen to be out here for a long period of time. Or maybe I could come visit you whenever I'm up in Sacramento? It would be great to meet up with you for lunch or something and catch up on things. In our earlier discussions on here we discussed it, but we never got around to doing it. You mentioned that we could get together whenever your back home for a long time. Plus I was thinking me, you and Tara could meet up if it fits everyones schedule.
    
    Same to you, Wish you you and your family a Merry Christmas!
    
    
  • Same to you peace and love to your family,
  • Chad
    
  • She never responed after this last message and it was sent a few days ago. She did give me her phone number via facebook message and I did the same a few months back.
    
    
  
  
  
  

I'm chad btw for the rest of you on the boards wondering. So whats the deal wth Amanda?

[bobman]

Originally Posted by kittycat40

I usually want to hangout with family and a couple close friends for the duration. I'm sorry, I don't want to be blunt - just want to be honest about my time at home.


So whats the deal wth Amanda?

There is no deal with Amanda. She'd rather hang out with family and close friends, a list which you don't qualify for.

Why do you need it explained ?
I think she's made it perfectly clear, no mixed signals, and no room for misinterperetation.

[STT Resident]

What's the deal with you is the better question. Why do you think she's supposed to jump to respond? It's the holiday season, a lot of people have a lot on their plates and obviously she's one of them. You're obviously not on her priority list and she's obviously not able right now to commit to anything where you're concerned. Leave well alone.

[RockJock1729]

Originally Posted by bobman

There is no deal with Amanda. She'd rather hang out with family and close friends, a list which you don't qualify for.

Why do you need it explained ?
I think she's made it perfectly clear, no mixed signals, and no room for misinterperetation.

This, ftw.

[Checkered24]

People will typically find the time to do what they want to do. She said she is busy with other people and plans. Sorry man, sucks, but that is how it is.

[purehuman]

The "deal" with Amanda is that she doesn't want to feel/be commited to any schedules that you come up with...she basically told you that.....you are being very persistant, and that's why she probably hasn't answered your last message...she's trying to be polite, but you can't seem to understand that she's busy...she's wished you well....you should just leave it at that.

[mistym]

Which part of her messages you didn't understand? Let it go. If you meet great, otherwise it is what it is and like she said "I'm glad we can keep in touch on here".

[Ceece]

Blah. I hate Chads!

[Yzette]

Originally Posted by kittycat40

Chad writes:

[LIST][*][LIST][*]Hi Amanda,[*]That is totally understandable to want to use short weekends to be with family and close friends. I was thinking of getting together whenever you happen to be out here for a long period of time. Or maybe I could come visit you whenever I'm up in Sacramento? It would be great to meet up with you for lunch or something and catch up on things. In our earlier discussions on here we discussed it, but we never got around to doing it. You mentioned that we could get together whenever your back home for a long time. Plus I was thinking me, you and Tara could meet up if it fits everyones schedule.

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[/LIST] Sorry, but the above message sounds desperate and naggy--desperate because of the multiple options you are offering, naggy because you reminded her of previous discussions. She may have said you could get together when she's home for a long time, but she just told you that this is not one of those times.

The best response would have been, "I hear ya. Maybe another time! Have a great holiday."

At this point, I wouldn't contact her again. Let her contact you.

[Suncc49]

Hit the Gym Chad...

Take your multi vitamin and lift heavy

They will come to you!