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Hi, are there any middle eastern men on here who could help me out.
I'm a 20-something year old brown skin, curvy black woman. There's this convenience store nearby that I go to about twice per month.
When I first started going, the store worker would treat me the same as he did everyone else. Lately, I've noticed changes. He dresses more hip (wears baseball caps, sometimes jerseys, etc. instead of the typical clothing they wear).
About two times, while waiting on me, I noticed him looking downwards at my body. The next few times I seen him, he didn't even look at me. After about three more visits, he would laugh every time I go to the store. The time before last, he and his dad spoke in their language, laughing as he kept peeping around at me even though the store was filled (not to see if I were stealing, I was in the lotto section right in front of them, standing behind this guy -- it was more less in a curious, nosy sort of way).
Laughing usually isn't a good sign. However, I don't understand what would be funny about me.
I am curvy, brown skin, keep my hair fixed, dress business/casual for the most part (never half-dressed), I'm not loud talking nor am I ghetto (I'm soft spoken, quiet and polite). The other black women I see visiting this store are quite the opposite of myself (at least 50 pounds heavier than I am, wear rags around their head or rollers, no makeup, many are of darker skin, etc.), but he doesn't laugh at them.
The same with the white and other race women - they aren't anything to write home about, either.
So, yes, it bothers me what he finds so funny. This is the only store nearby; I only go for gas and lotto, nothing else.
Don't get me wrong, he's never rude towards me, he says thanks and all of that, but the laughing, staring and speaking in their language doesn't set right with me. What's the "possible" issue?
Do you know anyone who might speak their language? Have him/her go in first and you follow a few seconds later (so you don't appear to be together). Conduct yourself as you normally would, and then ask your "translator" what they said. (Note: Your translator should be somewhere within earshot but not so close as to be obvious.)
If your translator indicates the conversation/words were negative, then use the translator to convey your feelings on the matter to the offending individual(s).
Oh I'd agree with GilahG... don't give your money to a business that treats you less than welcoming...
I would hazard a guess: intentional intimidation, immaturity, obnoxious personality, some kind of middle eastern screwed-up way of thinking, and then, just being male. Some are idiots.
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Originally Posted by Gilah G.
Can you go when he isn't working?
That's just rude.
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