People HATE to see a Single Mom do good!(rant) (father, member)
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Its like every time I buy something for my son, I get told about all the "more important" things I could've used the money for.
Keep in mind, I don't really consider myself a single mom, because my sons father is fully involved.
But yea, all I hear(from older people around me), "you could've saved that money/put in a college account/put toward school supplies". You're a single mom, you shouldn't spoil him.
Why do you assume I haven't already? How do you know I didn't put money in a college fund? How do you know I didn't get my son the necessary school supplies? I paid my rent, paid my bills, I have money left over. Why can't I buy him a pair of air Jordan's, or a PlayStation?
Are only children in married homes allowed nice things?
When people make statements like that, it really frustrates me. Its rude. Mind your own business, not my wallet.
I have a career
My own place
I pay for EVERYTHING out of pocket and depend on NO ONE
The thing is, I don't really think it's about your being single. I'm married, and I've heard that stuff from my elders too, particularly my grandparents.
People just like to second-guess other parents, especially those you are younger than they are.
I've often found that people with nosy, intrusive comments or questions are the ones that automatically assume that since you are single, you must be receiving some kind of government assistance, and how dare you buy anything at all when "OUR" taxes are paying for you to eat, sleep, and crap! It always annoys me, and I never have a problem putting people like this in their place. I work damn hard NOT to be on any assistance, but most people are on it because they need it, and don't need to be questioned by strangers on how they spend their money. The government is already up their rears with a microscope, tracking every dime, and they don't need help. Just another example of people being rude and ignorant.
The only people I talk to about what I buy the kids are very close family, so I don't have any advice, sorry. I honestly can't remember the last time a coworker, casual acquaintance, or neighbor told me what she bought her children.
For me, things come up in casual conversation. My daughter takes or has taken several different classes and in each one there was a nosy parent who first manage to weasel their way into my business and figure out I wasn't married, and then tried to push further to try to figure out how I managed to pay for the same classes their child was in.
If somebody ask what I got my son for Christmas, or his birthday, I tell them.
Ok, but then you say in your rant that the people should mind their own business after you give them the information.
If someone asks how was your Christmas? I keep it vague. "I bought the hubby some shoes." I have never had anyone ask for information. The people don't have to know that the shoes were Jordans.
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Why do you assume I haven't already? How do you know I didn't put money in a college fund? How do you know I didn't get my son the necessary school supplies? I paid my rent, paid my bills, I have money left over. Why can't I buy him a pair of air Jordan's, or a PlayStation?
