How do I kick my annoying aunt out of my house? (wife, children)
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My aunt came from another country and is now living in my house. The arrangement was she suppose to live in my house temporarily till she finds a job. She found a job and still here. She's pretty much getting everything for free, food and shelter. She watches TV alot. She's very intrusive of our own business. She gossips alot about other people. She's my uncles wife but they got divorced a long time ago. I'm letting her stay at my house as a favor for her children, my cousins. I don't know how to get rid of her off my house?
If you cannot do that, tell her to quit being a mooch and present her with a bill for all she has taken, eaten and for the number of room nights (like a hotel). Believe me, she will disappear fast.
Tell her that you were happy to help her get adjusted to living here. But now that she has a job, you expect her to find a place of her own. Give her a deadline, like 30 days.
If she doesn't know how to look for an apartment, you could help her out by going with her to a real estate agent. This is also more likely to ensure that she is really taking steps toward finding a place of her own.
Give her a deadline. She might not know how to find a place. Perhaps you could help her.
If her kids are in the U.S. you could enlist their help.
Good luck!
Excellent advice.
She knows full well she has over-extended her "temporary" status. Since you are not making an issue of it, she isn't going to bring the subject up . . . and mooch as long as she can.
So do what SILIBRAN suggested and get on with your lives without your freeloader, lol.
Send your cousins the bills for her groceries, internet, cable, rent etc. Hopefully they will take the hint. A favor is one thing, volunteering to be used is another.
The last time we had an unwanted relative houseguest, we had to PAY to get her out. We actually went and found an apartment (private owner), paid the deposit and some rent upfront, and told her to pack it up and took her to the new place.
I hope it doesn't come down to that for you... but you could certainly get busy finding her a room to rent or whatever, I would recommend that for sure. I imagine if you approach her with "Hey, I found SIX possible rentals for you, let's go have a look!" she will hopefully get the hint!
Don't forget that you might end up having to provide some furniture. So plan on that before you start looking.
She might be more agreeable to a small, one room, kitchen and bath at first, with a promise to help her look for something better.
Have a family meeting at the end of the month:
Tell her it's time for her to find her own place.
Give her the deadline of the end of the next month
Have 5 or 6 places ready for her to look at and take her to see them the first week of the month
Then,
Ask her everyday where she is going to move to
Continue to find places and take her to them
Help her pack up
Take her to her new place
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