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Revenge is never as satisfying as you expect it to be. I think instead you end up feeling twice as bad, first because of the way you were treated, and then for reacting in a similarly ugly manner. It's much better to move on.
I guess I need details so I can confirm it is indeed revenge. I would ask myself if my actions are more along the lines of creating boundaries to protect myself from this person. The other person may perceive my actions as taking revenge AND may have their feelings hurt as a result.
However, if my actions are only to hurt the other person by crossing boundaries, then, no, not a good action. You are behaving just like they are.
To be frank, again, I am not a troll, I don't care if I am as bad---my life is for the most part ruined.
I left my ex-husband the house when we divorced, he was supposed to take my name off the mortgage, he didn't and abandoned the house.
Despite the divorce papers saying he is to do that, it doesn't matter.
Now, I will need to file bankruptcy.
I worked hard to get away from him, better myself, have a life for our kids, which he cannot be bothered with, and now this.
I am depressed about it. No pity party, I just want so, so, so badly to ruin his life the way he ruined mine.
I am so sorry to hear about this. Your ex-husband sucks and your feelings are justified. Do you have family or friends you can lean on? You may need that more than revenge.
I am so sorry to hear about this. Your ex-husband sucks and your feelings are justified. Do you have family or friends you can lean on? You may need that more than revenge.
My mom is wonderful! I am just mad that I placed so much trust in someone who did not deserve it and I feel like I have to go back to start...he has no consequences and I have them all.
The only good thing to come from this marriage are my teens. They are awesome.
My mom is wonderful! I am just mad that I placed so much trust in someone who did not deserve it and I feel like I have to go back to start...he has no consequences and I have them all.
The only good thing to come from this marriage are my teens. They are awesome.
This is what you have to come to terms with, not revenge, I believe.
He sounds like a deadbeat dad and whether that is a good enough consequence for you, that is the consequence for him.
I am glad you have your mom and that you think your kids are awesome.
Sure, lots of us have plotted revenge against someone who has done something bad to us. It is just one of those human emotions that some people have more than others. But life has a way of getting revenge on our behalf if we are just patient.
I was going to extact revenge on a guy who was running around with my wife years ago, but after a while I let it go. He ended up with severe back problems and just recently died. At one time I would have danced on his grave, but the strange thing was, I felt no joy in his misery and passing, so I guess I had healed.
My suggestion is to try to let it go so it doesn't consume your life and eat you up. Sometimes holding that hostility in us is worse on us than the person we want to hurt.
Sure, lots of us have plotted revenge against someone who has done something bad to us. It is just one of those human emotions that some people have more than others. But life has a way of getting revenge on our behalf if we are just patient.
I was going to extact revenge on a guy who was running around with my wife years ago, but after a while I let it go. He ended up with severe back problems and just recently died. At one time I would have danced on his grave, but the strange thing was, I felt no joy in his misery and passing, so I guess I had healed.
My suggestion is to try to let it go so it doesn't consume your life and eat you up. Sometimes holding that hostility in us is worse on us than the person we want to hurt.
Don
I just wanted to get past it...I guess this, too, will pass like a kidney stone.
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I am so sorry to hear about this. Your ex-husband sucks and your feelings are justified. Do you have family or friends you can lean on? You may need that more than revenge.
