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Hello all. I have a situation I need advice about. Thought I would post here
I am a freshman who rushed and got a bid for my top sorority. Next weekend there is a mother daughter weekend where everyone prepares for the ceremony, the moms get invited for a shopping and sleepover weekend as well as a dinner. For all of us members it's mandatory.
At first I wasn't worried because I figured I wouldn't be left out. I don't have a mother and I assumed my some of my sister's mothers wouldn't be able to make it or didn't have one like me. But everyone has signed up and everyone has one on the sign up sheet.
I went to my big sister about it (my sorority big sister... I don't have an actual sister) and she says that it's okay and that maybe I had an aunt or someone who can come.
But I'm from foster care and don't have any family. I called up my old foster mom from my last placement and decided to ask, even though I was only placed there for less than a year. I don't know her that well. She said she couldn't and that she doesn't know how to get to my school anyway and it's a long drive.
I started a part time job and thought about asking my boss but I just started there so that could be awkward for her. She seems like a nice lady and she has kids but I don't know her that well either. I also thought about putting an ad on Craigslist but it would be weird asking a stranger to come right? I thought maybe a mom with nothing to do might want to come. There will be food and activities and other stuff. Nothing too wild or anything.
If not and I don't end up asking I am not sure what I should do. All the activities are for two people and I guess I'm just worried about it.
If I were close to you I would do it from my heart for you. Well I am too far away so that is not an option. Well if I were you just speak out the truth. I am sure the organizers would understand well. Even if you are not from foster care what if your mom passed away at some point. I truly understand you. Be strong. my prayers with you!
I wouldn't ask a stranger, or even a very casual acquaintance. It seems weird to me that your sorority big sister can't step in to fill the role for the weekend. Maybe one of the other upper classwomen can? I'd go back to either your "sister", or the president of the sorority for answers.
Good for you for making it to college, and, since it means something to you, being accepted into a sorority despite your difficult background. Don't let one weekend throw you off track.
I wouldn't ask a stranger, or even a very casual acquaintance. It seems weird to me that your sorority big sister can't step in to fill the role for the weekend. Maybe one of the other upper classwomen can? I'd go back to either your "sister", or the president of the sorority for answers.
Good for you for making it to college, and, since it means something to you, being accepted into a sorority despite your difficult background. Don't let one weekend throw you off track.
I think that is a good idea. yeah there was a one with us too when were at college. she went away.
Hello all. I have a situation I need advice about. Thought I would post here
I am a freshman who rushed and got a bid for my top sorority. Next weekend there is a mother daughter weekend where everyone prepares for the ceremony, the moms get invited for a shopping and sleepover weekend as well as a dinner. For all of us members it's mandatory.
At first I wasn't worried because I figured I wouldn't be left out. I don't have a mother and I assumed my some of my sister's mothers wouldn't be able to make it or didn't have one like me. But everyone has signed up and everyone has one on the sign up sheet.
I went to my big sister about it (my sorority big sister... I don't have an actual sister) and she says that it's okay and that maybe I had an aunt or someone who can come.
But I'm from foster care and don't have any family. I called up my old foster mom from my last placement and decided to ask, even though I was only placed there for less than a year. I don't know her that well. She said she couldn't and that she doesn't know how to get to my school anyway and it's a long drive.
I started a part time job and thought about asking my boss but I just started there so that could be awkward for her. She seems like a nice lady and she has kids but I don't know her that well either. I also thought about putting an ad on Craigslist but it would be weird asking a stranger to come right? I thought maybe a mom with nothing to do might want to come. There will be food and activities and other stuff. Nothing too wild or anything.
If not and I don't end up asking I am not sure what I should do. All the activities are for two people and I guess I'm just worried about it.
thank you all for reading.
You cannot be the first pledge to have this problem.
Ask your big sister (or pledge mother) how it was handled in the past.
Asking a casual acquaintance - and especially a stranger - doesn't sound like a good idea.
Do you have any close friends from high school or friends you made from where you lived during your last foster placement? Does the previous foster family have relatives that you know?
I'm sorry you're in this situation. I guess sometimes these events aren't planned thinking that someone may not have a mother or father, etc.
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