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How do you know it's not for you when you've never done it?
I think you're being close minded about this. Breastfeeding is better for both Mum and baby. Maybe you need to do some more research and speak to breastfeeding Mums.
What in particular makes you not want to breastfeed? There are a lot of advantages for both you and the baby. Talk to a lactation specialist before making the decision. At least being open to the idea may help to get the father and his family off your back for a while.
Just tell everyone, "I've ALREADY taken your opinions under advisement. Can we all just go on to something else? Otherwise, I'll see you when baby is 5 years old."
haha thanks ill try it!
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Originally Posted by Mattie
I don't think the father should get to decide if the mother breast feeds or not. However, there are so many benefits to breast feeding for both you and the baby. I lost all my pregnancy weight gain in 2 weeks after giving birth, and attribute that to breast feeding. The benefits for the babies are well documented. It also creates a wonderful bond between the mother and child.
Don't rule it out until you give it a fair shot.
wow that weight loss sounds impressive! i have gained around ten pounds.
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Originally Posted by allenk893
He's the father of your child now, not just your boyfriend. So you have to consider his feelings in this relationship. My advice is to try it at least ONCE when the baby first comes. That way you actually get to experience it and see for sure if it's something you want or don't want and you at least satisfy your boyfriend in that regard.
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Originally Posted by lilyflower3191981
Are there any particular reasons why do you refuse breastfed your child? I aint a mother, but I read it somewhere that breastfeed is a great way to bond with the child. Maybe after your child is born, your mind would change? Why worry about this now?
It just makes me feel uncomfortable plus pumping looks painful. i know its healthy
& whatnot but i just dont want a baby on my breast. ive heard of latching problems and
in general not something i want to deal with.
I honestly don't remember my OB/GYN discussing it. I do remember at Lamaze classes it was discussed and there were lactation classes. I tried breastfeeding. I had the lactation nurse in the room with me. My daughter wouldn't latch on. It was almost like she was impatient. The nurse was there and we tried. At that point we opted for a bottle of formula. I found that she was fussy with bottle nipples so my guess is mine wasn't the right fit for her lol. I did pump though.
In NYC, the formula is now locked in a closet and they force women to breastfeed.
i'm pregnant and once i told my baby's father i wasn't going to breastfeed he got upset w/ me.
he said, "what do you mean you won't? it's better for the baby."
now he's been bringing it up and he says he thinks I will change my mind once our child is born
but honestly i have no interest & plan on formula feeding
i think he thinks this bc his brothers wife breastfeeds, makes her own baby food etc
im not against breastfeeding or anything its just not for me.
my mom told me to just do what i want but his family are the ones that live close to me & they
are pressuring me and talking it up about how the milk is better for the baby
part of my issue is pumping… it seems awful and i googled the process and it's def not for me.
anyway once again im not against it in general but it's not for me and i feel like it's my choice to make.
i am looking for advice as to how to get them off my back.
Just tell them your boobs and how your baby is fed is none of their concern and the topic is not open for discussion.
As far as the boyfriend goes tell him the same thing and remind him that when the baby is using the boobs he will not be touching them until the baby is done using the boobs because they will be tender, swollen and for baby consumption only.
How do you know it's not for you when you've never done it?
I think you're being close minded about this. Breastfeeding is better for both Mum and baby. Maybe you need to do some more research and speak to breastfeeding Mums.
If a woman knows her own body she knows without "trying it" that breastfeeding is not something she wants to do. I knew before I had children and no one tried to shame or badger me into breastfeeding or "trying it".
It is her body, her baby and her choice and no one should be trying to shame her into breastfeeding if she does not want to and does not want to try it.
What in particular makes you not want to breastfeed? There are a lot of advantages for both you and the baby. Talk to a lactation specialist before making the decision. At least being open to the idea may help to get the father and his family off your back for a while.
it just makes me squeamish
i have great respect for it though
my boyfriend just is getting uptight about it
i feel like it's my choice
What in particular makes you not want to breastfeed? There are a lot of advantages for both you and the baby. Talk to a lactation specialist before making the decision. At least being open to the idea may help to get the father and his family off your back for a while.
Why should she be open to anything just to get them off her back?
She should not have to defend her own decision about her own body and her own baby they just need to keep their traps shut about the topic, it is really none of their business and her choice alone.
There is no need to talk to anyone, to change her mind to appease others or to try it just because so many others think it is "the right thing to do".
The right thing to do is leave her alone to make her own choices and not try to shame her into anything.
Why should she be open to anything just to get them off her back?
She should not have to defend her own decision about her own body and her own baby they just need to keep their traps shut about the topic, it is really none of their business and her choice alone.
There is no need to talk to anyone, to change her mind to appease others or to try it just because so many others think it is "the right thing to do".
The right thing to do is leave her alone to make her own choices and not try to shame her into anything.
thank you for saying exactly how i feel
the women in my boyfriend's family all breastfeed
and have given birth naturally so they have been pressuring me
into doing the same.
but you have really hit the nail on the head w/ how i feel
I like all those correlation studies which shows breastfed babies are somehow smarter than formula fed ones. Really? As if they had an identical baby who was not breast fed as a basis of comparison. Who knows if the breastfed babies would have been smarter anyway. I have an Ivy League degree. My sister has two PHD level degrees. I guess if we were breastfed, we would have been Einsteins. OP, just do whatever you want.
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