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i'm pregnant and once i told my baby's father i wasn't going to breastfeed he got upset w/ me.
he said, "what do you mean you won't? it's better for the baby."
now he's been bringing it up and he says he thinks I will change my mind once our child is born
but honestly i have no interest & plan on formula feeding
i think he thinks this bc his brothers wife breastfeeds, makes her own baby food etc
im not against breastfeeding or anything its just not for me.
my mom told me to just do what i want but his family are the ones that live close to me & they
are pressuring me and talking it up about how the milk is better for the baby
part of my issue is pumping… it seems awful and i googled the process and it's def not for me.
anyway once again im not against it in general but it's not for me and i feel like it's my choice to make.
i am looking for advice as to how to get them off my back.
besides the health thing i know he thinks it will cost more $$$
but to me thats just babies & kids in general
they cost money and i think he needs to get used to that
i will be using reuseable diapers so we will be saving money on that front
i did compromise over that.
Are there any particular reasons why do you refuse breastfed your child? I aint a mother, but I read it somewhere that breastfeed is a great way to bond with the child. Maybe after your child is born, your mind would change? Why worry about this now?
He's the father of your child now, not just your boyfriend. So you have to consider his feelings in this relationship. My advice is to try it at least ONCE when the baby first comes. That way you actually get to experience it and see for sure if it's something you want or don't want and you at least satisfy your boyfriend in that regard.
Just tell everyone, "I've ALREADY taken your opinions under advisement. Can we all just go on to something else? Otherwise, I'll see you when baby is 5 years old."
I don't think the father should get to decide if the mother breast feeds or not. However, there are so many benefits to breast feeding for both you and the baby. I lost all my pregnancy weight gain in 2 weeks after giving birth, and attribute that to breast feeding. The benefits for the babies are well documented. It also creates a wonderful bond between the mother and child.
I'm surprised that your OB/GYN hasn't discussed this with you. Mothers on the board can correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think that you'll be able to walk out of the hospital without at least speaking to a lactation consultant.
I'm surprised that your OB/GYN hasn't discussed this with you. Mothers on the board can correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think that you'll be able to walk out of the hospital without at least speaking to a lactation consultant.
it hasnt been yet but maybe because i am only sixteen weeks.
at this point his family have been the only ones to discuss it with me
wow i did not know that! someone told me they normally encourage breastfeeding
but i didnt know you had to hear it as an option after the birth.
this is my first pregnancy so i apologize if i sound naive
i am definitely learning as i go.
I'm surprised that your OB/GYN hasn't discussed this with you. Mothers on the board can correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think that you'll be able to walk out of the hospital without at least speaking to a lactation consultant.
I honestly don't remember my OB/GYN discussing it. I do remember at Lamaze classes it was discussed and there were lactation classes. I tried breastfeeding. I had the lactation nurse in the room with me. My daughter wouldn't latch on. It was almost like she was impatient. The nurse was there and we tried. At that point we opted for a bottle of formula. I found that she was fussy with bottle nipples so my guess is mine wasn't the right fit for her lol. I did pump though.
In NYC, the formula is now locked in a closet and they force women to breastfeed.
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