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Such as: I did my share of drinking and toking, but it wasn't celebrating; it was drowning (or "stoning") sorrows. My parents never understood that.
The few friends that I had, and I, didn't get drunk or high "for fun"; we did it because we were miserable. We were not pressured by peers; we were *rejected* by peers.
That's still not a healthy way of dealing with rejection.
It wasn't that they didn't "get it" You just couldn't accept being rejected.
I thought you were going to say you liked going to those glow parties they have these days or something.
Speaking as a person who had a protected religious upbringing and then went "crazy" after leaving home at the age of 19 hitch hiking for a year looking for America before finally landing in the part of the country that accepts rebels and radicals, Southern Calif.
The thought that is most prevalant on my mind at this stage in my life is the old saying " If I had only known that I was going to live this long, I would have taken better care of myself."
Dancing with the Devil is a lot of fun but believe me when I say that one day the Devil has to be paid his dues and they sure seem to be pretty expensive at my current age.
My body really feels like I've been rode hard and put away wet when I get up in the morning to greet the new day and can't believe that I'm still here and can't count how many of the people I used to hang with are not.
I am amazed at how many people I knew in my 20s have died of cancer. Most of them were into illegal drugs, and I think the toxins and impurities in the drugs are what eventually killed them. I also had friends in college that were brilliant, top of their class students who turned into stoned out lumps, did really stupid criminal things and ended up in jail. When I look back, the ones who did OK were the ones who avoided substance abuse problems. They could ride through just about anything else.
I used to do some crazy things when I was young. But pretty much by 11 years old I had to give up one of my favorite hobby "bombing" subway cars. That is what we use to call when you used one of the older kids "skelton"keys to get into the subway cars in the yard and do the big graffitti art. We jump the barb-wire fence, get past dogs etc, cross third rail and go to work. Sometimes 20 of us. Funny back then cars were covered with grafitti so you were painting over someone else. That in itself is dangerous as if it was a good grafitti artist who did work and you did your "art" on top he would come after you. We did the tag with the grafittii name and nearest numbered street.
I recall when I was 9 using a milk crate to stand on and spray paint did a nice big one near armory on Jerome ave in the Bronx visible from the Four train. Man that was scary to do a big one with cars honking and flying by and people can see you from train.
Even scarier walking through Bronx with cans of stolen spray paint and a milk crate by yourself at the age of nine. I go the spary paint as I found another "artist" stash where he hid them. Hey cant keep them at home, Mom and Dad would kill you.
Anyhow got some serious street cred from the older artists as they thought it was ballsy. Later when I was 22 I cruised by my old Tag spots in the Bronx and that was only one still up. I think cause it is in a super visible spot most folks tag and run, my thing was big several feet wide and high.
In NY pretty much by your 14 birthday no more fun.
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I was pretty much a model kid except for not being real diligent in my studies. Regardless, I still caught lots of **** from my folks.
I graduated high school, went on a 2 year religious mission, came home and I was still extremely naive. I was a 22 year old virgin at that point. Lost the V-card on a one-nighter with a gal, got dumped by her the next day, then no more sex for almost 3 more years. I ended up marrying someone who was divorced and then afterwards had a kid with another guy. There were other men as well. I don't know for sure how many notches my wife had carved into the bed post before I came along. That doesn't really matter though. For the first 12-13 years of marriage, the wife was a complete ***** and she put on a hundred pounds in the first 2-3 years. Things eventually got much better, but only after I seriously threatened to leave her.
I was told repeatedly that the wait would be worth it and that I would be so happy that I did wait. Bull ****ing ****!!! Add that to the stack of lies that I was told growing up.
Having said that though, I don't regret not getting mixed up with drugs, drinking, or criminal activity.
I think that rather you regret this or not depends on how well you do in adulthood, like finding a good job or the right person. In my case the lack of socialization and being involved with things has made it tough to succeed in adulthood.
I think there's a big difference between a tame childhood and a lack of socialization. Someone who had no friends and never did anything except stay home didn't have a tame childhood they had an extreme loner lifestyle. As far removed from a tame childhood as the opposite extreme - the wild child.
It's never too late to put yourself out and meet new people, volunteer, join activities, etc. It might feel weird and be hard at first, but the more you practice, the better you get.
This. It's possible to be creative and have a lot of crazy fun without being "wild", and get a criminal record, or do damage to yourself or others.
Totally agree.
I actually think sometimes it's more "tame" when someone's adolescent activities included lots of smokin' and drinkin' and f'in out in the woods but little else. Kinda boring.
Overall I was a very good kid, but I did a few "wild" things that I actually do regret. I know that isn't the OP's question, but for every person who wishes they had been wilder, there is probably someone who wishes they had been tamer.
I actually think sometimes it's more "tame" when someone's adolescent activities included lots of smokin' and drinkin' and f'in out in the woods but little else. Kinda boring.
You wanna be 50 and have that as your claim to fame, as something to look back fondly upon? (assuming that's more or less all there was)
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