Compliments make me awkward (boyfriend, conversation, issues, feel)
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I've always had this weird little "quirk" (I guess?) about me. I cannot receive a compliment to save my life. It's nothing to do with my self-image. I'm pretty self aware. I've had this particularly problem with boyfriends before.
They would compliment me and I would either laugh it off or completely ignore it. I don't know what it is, but compliments just aren't my thing. I don't know how to respond to them, I guess. A friend once suggested I compliment them back, but I would just end up scrambling to come up with something to say and it would sound totally insincere, so I stopped that.
So problem is that often people get the impression that I'm arrogant and ungrateful, because I don't necessarily "take" their compliment, or that I have some self-worth issues. Neither are true, I just hate being put in the spot. I mean, I've said thank you, but it makes things completely awkward for me. I just don't know the proper way to respond to them.
Moreover, I've had a boyfriend whine about the fact that I never "compliment" him and I don't really know how to feel about that because receiving them makes me uncomfortable so I've never bothered with giving them.
So I guess my question is how do I stop coming across as "ungrateful" or rude when receiving compliments and how do I stop myself for being so awkward about them? Are there other people who feel uncomfortable by compliments?
I've always had this weird little "quirk" (I guess?) about me. I cannot receive a compliment to save my life. It's nothing to do with my self-image. I'm pretty self aware. I've had this particularly problem with boyfriends before.
They would compliment me and I would either laugh it off or completely ignore it. I don't know what it is, but compliments just aren't my thing. I don't know how to respond to them, I guess. A friend once suggested I compliment them back, but I would just end up scrambling to come up with something to say and it would sound totally insincere, so I stopped that.
So problem is that often people get the impression that I'm arrogant and ungrateful, because I don't necessarily "take" their compliment, or that I have some self-worth issues. Neither are true, I just hate being put in the spot. I mean, I've said thank you, but it makes things completely awkward for me. I just don't know the proper way to respond to them.
Moreover, I've had a boyfriend whine about the fact that I never "compliment" him and I don't really know how to feel about that because receiving them makes me uncomfortable so I've never bothered with giving them.
So I guess my question is how do I stop coming across as "ungrateful" or rude when receiving compliments and how do I stop myself for being so awkward about them? Are there other people who feel uncomfortable by compliments?
How about smiling and saying, "Thank you"? It's really not that hard to do. Because when someone puts themselves out there to offer a sincere compliment, nothing is worse than to get no response.
How about smiling and saying, "Thank you"? It's really not that hard to do. Because when someone puts themselves out there to offer a sincere compliment, nothing is worse than to get no response.
Yeah, and I always say thank you. I'm not trying to make anyone feel bad. But I don't like them and often when I do say thank you, it comes across that I'm not comfortable.
Yeah, and I always say thank you. I'm not trying to make anyone feel bad. But I don't like them and often when I do say thank you, it comes across that I'm not comfortable.
Practice in the mirror.
First, big smile.
"Thank you, that's very kind of you to say."
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