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A woman who treat her husband like a man-child in front of her children. Literally, when he is home, all he does is plop himself on the couch. Usually the TV is on. Any mess that is left behind, he leaves it for someone else to clean up. Always. She constantly nags him which is like beating a dead horse. The wife takes care almost all household and parental responsibilities.
A woman who treat her husband like a man-child in front of her children. Literally, when he is home, all he does is plop himself on the couch. Usually the TV is on. Any mess that is left behind, he leaves it for someone else to clean up. Always. She constantly nags him which is like beating a dead horse. The wife takes care almost all household and parental responsibilities.
Not dysfunctional but, adults don't stay in relationships that they don't want.
gotta agree with you there. He must have "selective hearing" as he passive aggressive just keeping his mouth shut when my mom nags and complains.
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Originally Posted by Jay100
Not dysfunctional but, adults don't stay in relationships that they don't want.
Yes the do. A friend recently chatted to me about his relationship problems with his GF. He still with her because of financial reasons. Some couples are in co-dependent relationships which usually aren't healthy.
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Originally Posted by MaseMan
Sure they do. Some people never leave, even if they're miserable.
Nagging obviously doesn't work. If that's the only consequence to his behavior, and he's okay with dealing with it, she can nag until she has a heart attack. Waste of breath.
She needs to change tactics or leave.
Does he still get his laundry washed? Food on the table? Shopping done?
Just before I left my husband, we were in the store shopping for a big Thanksgiving dinner we were going to put on for all the "orphan" friends where we lived. A big potluck, but we were doing the turkey and other dishes. My problem with him was financial. He'd spend all his money, and then expect me to take up the slack. I complained, but I did it. Until that day ha ha! I'd been seeing a counselor and learned I needed to take action - words weren't working.
So, we get up to the checkout with a grocery cart full of food, and it's his turn to pay. He just stands there after the checker has rung everything up and looks at me like, well? In front of the clerk I said, it's your turn to pay. He said he didn't have the money. I took out of the bag a few things to make myself dinner, and asked the clerk to please check me out. I remember one of the items was an avocado. I wanted an avocado sandwich.
So, I paid for my sandwich fixings, and walked out of the store, told the clerk sorry for the hassle about the groceries in the bags that I wasn't going to pay for. My husband very dramatically took the bags and put them into the cart and slowly went around all the aisles putting everything back. I waited in the car.
We ended up divorced, but I had to finally stand my ground with action, not words. Nagging is wasted breath and blood pressure.
Oh, and he did end up buying a turkey. I agreed to cook it.
Nagging obviously doesn't work. If that's the only consequence to his behavior, and he's okay with dealing with it, she can nag until she has a heart attack. Waste of breath.
She needs to change tactics or leave.
Does he still get his laundry washed? Food on the table? Shopping done?
Just before I left my husband, we were in the store shopping for a big Thanksgiving dinner we were going to put on for all the "orphan" friends where we lived. A big potluck, but we were doing the turkey and other dishes. My problem with him was financial. He'd spend all his money, and then expect me to take up the slack. I complained, but I did it. Until that day ha ha! I'd been seeing a counselor and learned I needed to take action - words weren't working.
So, we get up to the checkout with a grocery cart full of food, and it's his turn to pay. He just stands there after the checker has rung everything up and looks at me like, well? In front of the clerk I said, it's your turn to pay. He said he didn't have the money. I took out of the bag a few things to make myself dinner, and asked the clerk to please check me out. I remember one of the items was an avocado. I wanted an avocado sandwich.
So, I paid for my sandwich fixings, and walked out of the store, told the clerk sorry for the hassle about the groceries in the bags that I wasn't going to pay for. My husband very dramatically took the bags and put them into the cart and slowly went around all the aisles putting everything back. I waited in the car.
We ended up divorced, but I had to finally stand my ground with action, not words. Nagging is wasted breath and blood pressure.
Oh, and he did end up buying a turkey. I agreed to cook it.
I don't see them getting a divorce anytime soon. Old habits die hard. My mom will nag and complain until she or my father dies. Things still get done. She's the one that does the laundry, cooks and gets the shopping done
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