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I have not spoken to my sister or my mother in about five years. They live in Colorado Springs.
Normally I stay out of their lives because both of them irritate the crap out of me.
Recently, I read on<edit> social media that my 31 year old sister is 8 weeks pregnant (never had a child before). Today she posted "The only people that know are my street mom and dad." She lives in a homeless camp surrounded by criminals, and she just got out of jail, so clearly her "street mom and dad" are not her real mom and dad. Mom and Dad (now divorced) are financially well off but they don't read her facebook account like I do (I never post to my sister's account; I just read it).
What concerns me is that without any prenatal care, living on the streets, drinking heavily, doing drugs, etc., she is either going to kill the baby, or give birth to a deformed baby. Even if the baby is perfectly healthy, there is simply no way that she can raise a child. She can barely take care of herself.
So my question for the audience here is... should I revoke my long-standing self-imposed order of no communication with my mother and tell her that her daughter is 8 weeks pregnant? I'm thinking yes, that this is more important than the insurmountable arguments we've had in the past, but before I do so, I wanted to get the opinion of others here.
Thanks for your advice.
p.s. Dad has nothing to do with her, and we get along fine. If I tell my mother, then I will tell my Dad as well.
Last edited by Miss Blue; 10-12-2017 at 05:57 AM..
If it were me I would reach out, but your sister is an adult and it is ultimately her decision to accept help or not. If she oryour parents are unperceptive I would probably drop it.
It doesn't seem like your sister is able to manage her own affairs and her impending childbirth will put her in a crisis situation. So you may be the only one who can start some action to rescue her. It might be enough to notify your father only, if you think he will initiate something to help your sister.
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I would stay far away from this one. This has a 99% chance of unbearable drama and will kill anything it touches. It is not your place to drop some o n your sister being pregnant.
I would stay far away from this one. This has a 99% chance of unbearable drama and will kill anything it touches. It is not your place to drop some o n your sister being pregnant.
^This. I was just about to say MYOB. OP, you don't want to be bothered with your sister and mother yet you stalk your sister's FB? If I don't want to deal with someone, I block them out of my life every which way possible. And it does not appear that your sister and parents have much of a relationship either. Just leave it alone.
I would stay far away from this one. This has a 99% chance of unbearable drama and will kill anything it touches. It is not your place to drop some o n your sister being pregnant.
Meh, she put it on <edit>social media , privacy is up for grabs at that point.
I'd say something; there is various wellbeing at stake, and someone whose competence is compromised.
Last edited by Miss Blue; 10-12-2017 at 06:00 AM..
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