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That's a bit of a generalization. SOME people prefer to gossip but good friends will be happy to listen and offer support
in whatever way they are able.
We're social beings. We like to be in bunches, and when we gather, we like to talk about our bunch, some who are there, some who aren't, and some who've left.
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I had an "inherited" friend, someone my now deceased parents had for a friend, and though we had a good relationship for a number of years after both of my parents were gone, this person asked me "Are you still working? Someone asked me the other day, and I thought you'd tell me if you weren't".
Whether I am working or not, the point here is that this person is a gossip, and to tell them anything is to enable their gossip.
We're social beings. We like to be in bunches, and when we gather, we like to talk about our bunch, some who are there, some who aren't, and some who've left.
Never Tell Your Problems to Anyone
20% Don't Care
The Other 80% are Glad You Have Them
I think this board is proof that is not true. There have been quite a few folks who would not bothered to have posted responses to my posts had they not cared or were glad I had had my problems.
I am grateful to them.
As for the gossip thing....I believe people gossip about others for a number of reasons, a few are----they are not happy with their own lives and they do derive some amount of pleasure in hearing and sharing other folks' unfortunate circumstances. They could be envious of others and think their lives are better, so they feel the need to spread secrets about them to make themselves feel more powerful or important. I also know for a fact that if someone has a grievance towards another, if they know of nothing negative about that person, they will make up things just to turn others against that person (I have had that done to me many times in the past).
I have two policies with myself......and one is that I cannot be a gossiper. My grandmother was one of the biggest gossips I have ever known and I remember sitting there listening to her and thinking "that isn't very nice of grandma to be saying that stuff about....(neighbors, relatives, etc)." Don't get me wrong, I loved my grandmother (God rest her soul). She had so many good qualities. She also had a fantastic memory and could recall things even up into her 90's that happened in her teens.
Something also that sticks in my head is when my dad came back home after visiting with my grandma, his mom, years ago.....She was a talker and my mom asked my dad if he had a good visit and he said...."Yep, I gave her a good listening to." Then I remarked about Grandma having such a great memory.....Dad's response...."yes, Mom's memory is so good she even remembered things which never happened." (prob. in reference to her gossiping
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