When people accidentally break your things.. (member, children, adults, house)
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This is just a small rant. I know there are more important things in the world.. homeless, diseases, etc. It's not even that important.
But I just want to make a point... it seems that whenever someone accidentally breaks one of my favourite pieces of china, a bowl, a vase, a plate, I am the one doing the consoling and telling them it's okay, it's just a thing, good job they didn't get hurt, cut, and inside I'm holding back the tears and no-one is trying to make ME feel better when I'm the one who has now lost something I treasured for years. There has never once been an offer or attempt to replace or fix it.
Just tired of it to the point that one day I'm going to let lose and call someone a clumsy idiot and they'll never speak to me again. lol.
This is just a small rant. I know there are more important things in the world.. homeless, diseases, etc. It's not even that important.
But I just want to make a point... it seems that whenever someone accidentally breaks one of my favourite pieces of china, a bowl, a vase, a plate, I am the one doing the consoling and telling them it's okay, it's just a thing, good job they didn't get hurt, cut, and inside I'm holding back the tears and no-one is trying to make ME feel better when I'm the one who has now lost something I treasured for years. There has never once been an offer or attempt to replace or fix it.
Just tired of it to the point that one day I'm going to let lose and call someone a clumsy idiot and they'll never speak to me again. lol.
If this happens often, the solution is on you, not the individuals. Move your breakables away from the flow of traffic or something.
Are we talking about children or grandchildren here? They are the culprits in my house but easily forgiven. If another adult is breaking your things let the tears flow in front of them so they know that despite your protestations that item really did matter to you.
The only time I got upset was when a 6 yr old visitor broke one of the posts of my brand new 4 poster bed by jumping off and swinging on it. I didn't tell the parents, I got it fixed.
I don't worry about belongings. Maybe it's because I have three sons, but it seemed risky to become too attached to anything.
I think you might want to consider who is doing this breaking.
If it's children or teenagers then use cheap sets of plates and serving bowls, dishes when they are dining with you. Reserve the good china for adults only and for sit down formal occasions ( no china outdoors or for buffet dining, etc.)
Before company comes to visit take the vases you treasure and put them up high or away in a hutch cabinet so they are safe. Basically you'll have to look at your valuables and decide whether to keep them out or tuck them away depending on who is visiting.
If you have a room full of breakables on end tables or coffee tables, then maybe use secure baby gates to keep toddlers out or put up french doors to that room that can be locked. Then you can keep the littlest family members in a family room or den where they can't break anything that is important to you.
This is just a small rant. I know there are more important things in the world.. homeless, diseases, etc. It's not even that important.
But I just want to make a point... it seems that whenever someone accidentally breaks one of my favourite pieces of china, a bowl, a vase, a plate, I am the one doing the consoling and telling them it's okay, it's just a thing, good job they didn't get hurt, cut, and inside I'm holding back the tears and no-one is trying to make ME feel better when I'm the one who has now lost something I treasured for years. There has never once been an offer or attempt to replace or fix it.
Just tired of it to the point that one day I'm going to let lose and call someone a clumsy idiot and they'll never speak to me again. lol.
Lol. And that's why I love City-Data: we discuss all the meaningless, trivial things that make up much of everyday life
Years ago, a neighbor's child deliberately broke a vase that meant a lot to me and she did not offer to replace it. I can still get steamed thinking about it and I don't care if it is supposedly trivial, it was a thoughtful gift from someone who loved me and was irreplaceable for that reason alone.
Years ago, a neighbor's child deliberately broke a vase that meant a lot to me and she did not offer to replace it. I can still get steamed thinking about it and I don't care if it is supposedly trivial, it was a thoughtful gift from someone who loved me and was irreplaceable for that reason alone.
The apple doesn't fall far from the tree, apparently. It's bad enough that a child would deliberately break a valuable item belonging to a neighbor, but for the child's parents to not accept responsibility and reimburse you for the loss is inexcusable. I would certainly not allow those people in my house again.
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