Is it tacky to give the same gift every year? (member, present)
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If they like it, presumably they've used up last year's gift and are eager for more. It's a perfect solution. But it seems to me your real problem is a husband who won't buy his own parents a holiday gift once a year. Was it in the marriage contract that you would take care of all his personal responsibilities? I hate to think what other very personal things you must be doing for him unless he reserves special dislike for his parents.
lol I'm sure they used up the the couple wines we sent in a few days. They also entertain quite a bit, it could all be used in one dinner.
No problem me shopping for the in-laws. My husband works a lot and I am a stay at home mom. So I pick up a lot of the chores during the week while he works. He is also the slowest shopper on the planet, I'd rather do the shopping then have him spend the whole weekend at the mall and come home empty handed for his family. I also do the shopping for gifts for people who work for him, and all of the shopping for the kids. If I didn't want to do it, I'd tell him and he would do it. It's just easier for everyone.
Also, the inlaws know I'm in charge of shopping...but I've been part of the family for over 15 years, it's certainly acceptable.
He does take care of sending cards for birthdays and making holiday calls...well some times I have to remind him about the calls.
Each couple divides responsibilities how ever it works for them. This works for us.
I think it depends on the item at hand. Gift cards, I feel, are a nice sentiment for pretty much anyone. It makes them happy because they get to go spend money on something they know they'll value!
My husband makes me get the gifts for the in laws...well he doesn't "make" me. If I don't do it, he won't. So I do it. But every year I agonize about it. They aren't easy to shop for. But about 4 or 5 years ago I finally figured out a gift they like. Wine! So every year since I have been buying them a couple nice bottles of wine online to have sent to them. It's always been warmly received...unlike most of my other attempts at gifts.
As I was browsing the selection it hit me...maybe it tacky to keep giving it to them? Same thing (not the same type) every year.
Same gift every year? Wine is OK if they like wine. It's not OK if it is a fruit cake or tickets to the Ice Capades.
Spouses who refuse to buy gifts? My father never in his entire life ever gave me a Christmas card or birthday card. For a couple of years he had a very nice roommate, and during those years, I used to get cards, signed with my father's name, but in the roommate's handwriting. I get one card every year at Christmas signed with my uncle's name but written in his wife's handwriting.
So, you aren't the only one, OP who shops for others who won't shop.
My husband makes me get the gifts for the in laws...well he doesn't "make" me. If I don't do it, he won't. So I do it. But every year I agonize about it. They aren't easy to shop for. But about 4 or 5 years ago I finally figured out a gift they like. Wine! So every year since I have been buying them a couple nice bottles of wine online to have sent to them. It's always been warmly received...unlike most of my other attempts at gifts.
As I was browsing the selection it hit me...maybe it tacky to keep giving it to them? Same thing (not the same type) every year.
Tacky or not?
It isn't tacky if it is nice wine, and if it is warmly appreciated. They probably look forward to your gift every Christmas!
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wine it is.
