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Here's the deal, I'm in college now in Chicago. I have absolutely no problem traveling by myself. I've gone on spring break the past 2 years by myself, and had a great time. Met a few new friends along the way and never regretted it. However this year I'm going back to Cancun, I don't mind going by myself, but I'd really rather go with a friend. The problem is, all my friends are either broke, going home or working. Those are excuses I hear when I mention a sb trip. I'm considering offering to pay for flight, and hotel for a friend just so I can have the company. I'm by no means rich, but I do have the ability to do that. My question is a.) Would it be insulting to someone for me to offer? B.) Would I seem desperate or pathetic? C.) Should I just go alone again? I don't want to be taken advantage of either.
You have to respect the schedules of those who are either working or going home for the break. If it makes a difference to one of the "broke" friends by letting them know you'll be happy to share your paid for room, I see nothing wrong with that. But paying for the flight on top of it may come across as too much. I'd be uncomfortable accepting.
You have to respect the schedules of those who are either working or going home for the break. If it makes a difference to one of the "broke" friends by letting them know you'll be happy to share your paid for room, I see nothing wrong with that. But paying for the flight on top of it may come across as too much. I'd be uncomfortable accepting.
Here's the deal, I'm in college now in Chicago. I have absolutely no problem traveling by myself. I've gone on spring break the past 2 years by myself, and had a great time. Met a few new friends along the way and never regretted it. However this year I'm going back to Cancun, I don't mind going by myself, but I'd really rather go with a friend. The problem is, all my friends are either broke, going home or working. Those are excuses I hear when I mention a sb trip. I'm considering offering to pay for flight, and hotel for a friend just so I can have the company. I'm by no means rich, but I do have the ability to do that. My question is a.) Would it be insulting to someone for me to offer? B.) Would I seem desperate or pathetic? C.) Should I just go alone again? I don't want to be taken advantage of either.
Offering to pay for a vacation is a good way to ruin a friendship. It can be viewed as insulting. The travel companion (or you) may feel that they have to follow your itinerary. Either way the trip is ruined. Just go by yourself.
Here's the deal, I'm in college now in Chicago. I have absolutely no problem traveling by myself. I've gone on spring break the past 2 years by myself, and had a great time. Met a few new friends along the way and never regretted it. However this year I'm going back to Cancun, I don't mind going by myself, but I'd really rather go with a friend. The problem is, all my friends are either broke, going home or working. Those are excuses I hear when I mention a sb trip. I'm considering offering to pay for flight, and hotel for a friend just so I can have the company. I'm by no means rich, but I do have the ability to do that. My question is a.) Would it be insulting to someone for me to offer? B.) Would I seem desperate or pathetic? C.) Should I just go alone again? I don't want to be taken advantage of either.
If you would enjoy having your friend along, I see nothing wrong with gifting her plane fair. However, if she can not cover her share of the hotel and other expenses, including any emergency... I would not do it.
You need to be sure that you realize that if you are the one footing the whole vacation, trip, room all expenses, you're actually giving away your next vacation...so think this thru...especially if you have never been on a trip overnight with this person.
Paying for a friend can become awkward later on in your friendship. If it is a loan they can pay back then I would say go for it. Small favors are fine (like buying lunch, letting them crash on your couch, giving job references) but the ones your friends cant pay back can ruin your friendship. They might end up feeling obligated. Friends should be able to tell it like it is & walk out on you if you step over your boundaries but financial favors make people act differently around you.
I would say go by yourself, meet new people, have fun & bring back thoughtful gifts, souvenirs from your trip for all your dear friends instead of spending money on just one.
C.) Should I just go alone again? I don't want to be taken advantage of either.
Don't even open a can of worms such as this. Go alone and have fun. Paying for a friend to go with you opens the door to them expecting you to pay for drinks and dinners too; not just on vacation but in normal life too.
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