Rude house guest (messages, feel)

[jencam]

I have a friend who stays up all night. I do not always, but sometimes I do.

Which I will get to later.

But, isn't this rude?

I have a love-seat up against a wall a few feet too far to watch TV from. And frankly, it's a clean laundry hamper, which is my right :-)

I offer an office like chair and my friend makes a big show of how uncomfortable it is - which is rude to begin with, imo.

He doesn't say 'do you mind if we clear off this love seat?'

He just pulls it out and sits on my laundry!

I said no no, and put it in a basket.

Then he took the cushion - the one you're supposed to lean against - and sat ON it.

I was like hello?

There is more, but I will start with that.

I don't know how to deal with someone who takes charge of my space, in general.

Besides banishing him from it.

I don't want to make him feel like he's on eggshells but I am sure not willing to feel that way in my own home!

[Zeurich]

Show him the door and say loud "GET OUT" shut the door and say "good bye"

[jencam]

Originally Posted by Zeurich

Show him the door and say loud "GET OUT" shut the door and say "good bye"

I'm curious what part of my post you base this on lol.

[jencam]

I got very close to that.

I asked him how he takes his coffee.

He wanted two creamers in it.

I only had a small coffee cup that wasn't in the DW so I only put one creamer in it.

But I gave him a little bowl with creamers and every different type of sugar/sweetener in it.

He said why did you only put one creamer in?

I should have hit him on the head.

Who the ef cares?

You have creamers in front of you!

He left some things I wanted from the store on my porch the next night and I said what for?

He said for putting up with me and I said yeah that creamer comment was messed up.

I felt ADMONISHED.

[Zeurich]

Originally Posted by jencam

I'm curious what part of my post you base this on lol.

that is my answer for your complains anyway if you have written a poem then it is in wrong place. Just saying

[jencam]

Maybe I should send fb messages as I think of them stating 'house rules'

[jencam]

Originally Posted by Zeurich

that is my answer for your complains anyway if you have written a poem then it is in wrong place. Just saying

So you don't think that is so rude - you are just saying if I do, then bounce him?

Partially, I am trying to see where I might be overly sensitive.

I just would never act the way he does.

If I was not comfortable in the seating option offered to me, I'd ASK, not just take upon myself to move around.

Certainly not sit on someone's laundry.

Or cushion for God's sake.

It will ruin it!

[rego00123]

Doesn't matter if we think it's rude, You do and it's your house...

Set the rules and let it be know so "they" know.

[jencam]

This one has been settled but it's another example.

I had one coke and one sprite.

I asked if he'd like one of them.

He chose the sprite.

Later, he got up and just TOOK the coke.

The last beverage in the fridge.

I was like ??????????

Doesn't everyone know not to take the last of something?

Plus, until someone invites you to help yourself, in my world, one does not.

If someone offered for me to go take a coke and I saw it was the last, I'd say 'hey, this is your last one' to make sure that was ok!

Anyway, I never invited him to help himself.

[jencam]

Originally Posted by rego00123

Doesn't matter if we think it's rude, You do and it's your house...

Set the rules and let it be know so "they" know.

Yeah, but 1) I want to check myself. I've been solely in charge of my space for a long time - maybe *I* am wrong about some things?

and 2) I want to figure out how to do that w/o being a 'b'.

Honestly I think he's bossy and domineering which sets off alarm bells for me, but as I said I may be over-reacting.