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How often do you say I love you to your loved ones (Aside from your spouse/significant other)?
This came to me as I was having a conversation with a friend who mentioned they never heard those precious 3 words from their family members, since they didn't grow up that way (expressing their feelings). I thought that's sad! Is that a common thing? I'm curious to know are most people like my family where they openly express fond feelings towards each other or more like my friend's, and just say it once in a blue moon, assuming the loved one's "know it" and don't need to hear it?
I have 2 siblings and my mom, and we rarely end a conversation without saying it. I of course say it to my husband on hanging up or leaving the house. I now realize not everyone gets to hear those precious words from those they love. Maybe some think they don't need to state the obvious?
I don't want to sound corny or cheesy but tomorrow is not promised. If there's someone you love, and care about, don't let them wonder, express it to them. It feels so good to know you're loved!
So what do you think? What's your way of expressing love?
We started saying it more after my parents got divorced. I am glad too, because it was the last thing I ever said or heard from my sister; she died suddenly and I really didn't get to say goodbye.
I never ever said it to my parents but I say if to my friends all the time. They all get extra long hugs and I tell them all the time how precious they are to me. My text messages include dear one, precious one, or love.
I believe if you love someone you should show it. I had one friend that couldn't handle it, but he was very damaged emotionally and an alcoholic. Sad.
You can't be part of my universe if I can't be affectionate and loving towards you. It's just the way I'm wired.
How often do you say I love you to your loved ones (Aside from your spouse/significant other)?
This came to me as I was having a conversation with a friend who mentioned they never heard those precious 3 words from their family members, since they didn't grow up that way (expressing their feelings). I thought that's sad! Is that a common thing? I'm curious to know are most people like my family where they openly express fond feelings towards each other or more like my friend's, and just say it once in a blue moon, assuming the loved one's "know it" and don't need to hear it?
I have 2 siblings and my mom, and we rarely end a conversation without saying it. I of course say it to my husband on hanging up or leaving the house. I now realize not everyone gets to hear those precious words from those they love. Maybe some think they don't need to state the obvious?
I don't want to sound corny or cheesy but tomorrow is not promised. If there's someone you love, and care about, don't let them wonder, express it to them. It feels so good to know you're loved!
So what do you think? What's your way of expressing love?
Sadly with todays kids especially there parents hardly ever say it or say it more than once a day . I always say it to my mom and she does with me to all the time but yes sadly it's common in my opinion .
I never ever said it to my parents but I say if to my friends all the time. They all get extra long hugs and I tell them all the time how precious they are to me. My text messages include dear one, precious one, or love.
I believe if you love someone you should show it. I had one friend that couldn't handle it, but he was very damaged emotionally and an alcoholic. Sad.
You can't be part of my universe if I can't be affectionate and loving towards you. It's just the way I'm wired.
I wouldn't say it's corny or cheesy, give yourself a little break OP
As an only child, and my parents Silent Generation, they were pretty tough cookies. Tough, but fair, I firmly believe many decades later. They were older, and taught me from a young age to be independent. I was the kid least likely on our block to be mixed up with a bad crowd, I was simply taught better and was lucky enough to have a level head: level as a kid's can be, and all kids have dumb moments as we know because they simply don't don't have the wisdom yet.
I seldom heard those three words, it didn't happen in our house. I am a ISTJ/P ("just the facts, ma'am") and grew up with little need or desire for touch and affection. That's caused some serious relationship trouble in these more "sensitive times" we're in, but again: who's complaining, I always had food on the table as a kid and never slept outdoors plus my father always had a professional career. We lived the Middle Class dream. While often joyless, my home growing up was stable and that's worth plenty. My parents were decent people, more engaged than some but not so much as others.
Sometimes we play the cards we're dealt.
I don't recall ever saying those words in any relationship until late last year. I'm 48 and fly solo; always have, always will, desire and need to get married or be a relationship longer than a few months = zero. It tore her up that I didn't say them, so I started at some point. When she took off, early 2016, implication was I was rather loveless so whatever shell game I was playing must have shone through in 1,001 ways non-verbally. I found it rather amusing, and wish her well in future endeavors: there are more-emotional guys out there and IME a lot of women want that. Power to 'em.
So what do you think? What's your way of expressing love?
Different people show their love in different ways. (i.e., "The Five Languages of Love") I am demonstrative -- I hug, and hanging up on the phone with a family member, or having them leave my home at the end of a visit also earns a "I love you!" I express love by preparing meals at home that I know my family enjoy, and by making sure that things get handled when my husband is buried in work. I'll make sure the oil is changed in his car, and occasionally wash his car (I grew up working around my dad's dealership, so when I was a young teenager, I washed a LOT of cars . . . I'm good at it. :-) I TiVO his favorite show, and keep his favorite cookies in the pantry. And the last thing I say before I turn off the light at night is "G'night, love."
He shows his love by letting me sleep a little extra some days and walking the dog early, fixing supper when he gets home before me, giving me back rubs when it's been a long, stressful day, keeping an eye out for my favorite wine at the local wine shop, and he often comes by my office and brings me flowers, "just because." He is also good at just listening when I need to unload after a bad day. He will also text, "Love you, thinking about you" at random times -- not often, but enough to make me smile. He dug an entire rose bed for me for a wedding anniversary, and planted it with the number of roses bushes that corresponded to the anniversary (I think it was 15). He loves to plan our trips and vacations, and does a great job. He doesn't often say "I love you," but he shows it in so many other ways.
My dad never felt comfortable saying "I love you" until one day he told me that, "If anything happens to me son, just know that I love you." And I knew there was something wrong, but we got through it and our dad is fine now, and he tells us he loves us every time we visit.
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but yes sadly it's common in my opinion .
