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I was wondering exactly "how" your parents kept you apart?
Heck, once my siblings and I left home if I wanted to see one of them I called them and set it up (and vice versa). In fact, if we saw each other far, far more often "on our own" than with our parents. I would drive to my sister's house or she would drive to my house or all of us would get together at one of our brother's houses. Actually, since my parents were dairy farmers and could not leave the farm for more than a few hours at a time, and we all lived quite a distance away, so the majority of the time our get-togethers were without our parents.
OP, please clarify and maybe we can give you some suggestions.
Do you both have kids? If so, it's highly possible that it's about having all those kids in the house at once, instead of trying to keep brother and sister apart. The sister may be completely incorrect in her "realization" that the parents have been keeping them apart for 17 years.
If not...do brother and sister disagree or argue a lot?
My first reaction was similar to PAhippo's, that too many people at one time is too stressful for them. Planning, preparing, and cleaning up after a meal for 6 is a lot easier than a meal for 10 or more. If family is spending the night or many nights, they may feel too crowded with that many people. Maybe combining the kids (if that's even the case) makes for too much chaos, and they just can't handle the chaos anymore.
Why doesn't your husband just ask his father why he made that decision?
Another very valid reason could be that with multiple people around, the parents find it much harder to talk to one child alone, and have a meaningful conversation. You know, like how a 1:1 conversation is usually a lot more intimate than a 3 way or 4 way conversation where all the personal stuff gets removed and you just end up chit chatting about general stuff.
Sometimes it can be the reverse too. Say, you have a group of friends, and all hang out together as a group all the time. But you also want to sometimes meet up with them individually so you can get to know them better. And it actually becomes annoying sometimes when you tell friend A you want to catch up with them and they invariably end up inviting your other friends as well and make it yet another group meeting.
We lived 8 hours away. They are 20 minutes apart. We left it up to his parents to make arrangements. We thought they tried, but they actually kept it from us that his sister wanted to get together.
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Originally Posted by germaine2626
I was wondering exactly "how" your parents kept you apart?
Heck, once my siblings and I left home if I wanted to see one of them I called them and set it up (and vice versa). In fact, if we saw each other far, far more often "on our own" than with our parents. I would drive to my sister's house or she would drive to my house or all of us would get together at one of our brother's houses. Actually, since my parents were dairy farmers and could not leave the farm for more than a few hours at a time, and we all lived quite a distance away, so the majority of the time our get-togethers were without our parents.
OP, please clarify and maybe we can give you some suggestions.
We just found out his sister wanted to arrange to go camping with us. But we were never told, when his parents said they had told us. So it's not too many people.
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Originally Posted by asliarun
Another very valid reason could be that with multiple people around, the parents find it much harder to talk to one child alone, and have a meaningful conversation. You know, like how a 1:1 conversation is usually a lot more intimate than a 3 way or 4 way conversation where all the personal stuff gets removed and you just end up chit chatting about general stuff.
Sometimes it can be the reverse too. Say, you have a group of friends, and all hang out together as a group all the time. But you also want to sometimes meet up with them individually so you can get to know them better. And it actually becomes annoying sometimes when you tell friend A you want to catch up with them and they invariably end up inviting your other friends as well and make it yet another group meeting.
The kids are bigger now, and it was invites to get us out of his parents house. His parents never told us about the invites. No, they don't argue.
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Originally Posted by Luvvarkansas
Do you both have kids? If so, it's highly possible that it's about having all those kids in the house at once, instead of trying to keep brother and sister apart. The sister may be completely incorrect in her "realization" that the parents have been keeping them apart for 17 years.
If not...do brother and sister disagree or argue a lot?
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